I’m always sad at the end of July, because it’s the best month ever. This year, though, you have filled me with all of your well wishes, posts, reviews, feedback, and gifts! I am very lucky, and I cherish you. Thank you!
CredereGoodBoy created a beautifully purple birthday post for me in Imaglr: 
And my boys thank many of you for their toys! These will always remain on my Throne wish list because they never tire of getting new ones 😀 Also, August is the boys’ birthday month. Koki will be a year old on August 11. And hopefully Ledger will turn 14 on the 20th.
On my actual birthday, Claire took me to see the latest Minions movie and lunch. Then my daughters brought me dinner and we hung out. It was a wonderful day! I even wrote about 1,200 words on this year’s Christmas novel so I could read the first coupla chapters to Claire.
For those of you who still want to send me something, fear not; my Throne is open year-round! 🙂
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The Dominion and the Sugilite – Episode 37
Punishment and reflection are the focus of this installment of my Fantasy/Sci-Fi Erotic Soap Opera with Femdom themes!
What does Geo think of T-Bif?
Can Aurora save Pebbles?
How does Ophira punish?
Plus: Naturalist idiosyncrasies; Futa shakes; Chantal’s flightiness; and more in this episode of “The Dominion and the Sugilite”… with Episode 38 coming soon.
If you haven’t started the series yet, you can jump in by getting The First Season at a discount, and don’t forget to get the Supplement, which contains all the behind-the-scenes tidbits as well as charts and episode synopses.
Reviews are important, especially in the erotica genre. So go to Goodreads and write reviews for all of my books that you’ve read. Also, “like” the other positive reviews. Not only could you influence a potential reader but you’ll make me happy. Remember, our new goal is 1,000 reviews!
I started this year’s Christmas novel during Christmas in July! Last year’s, “An Ornamental Christmas” was heavily slanted toward gentle femdom. So this time I’ve set my xmas romance/spoof in a BDSM-friendly small town!
All the tropes you love (or hate) from made-for-TV Christmas movies will be twisted to a hardcore kinky degree.
I was so excited during the initial writing phase that I had to stop and create the cover. But I’m not going to just *give* it to you… no, I’ll make you *beg*. If you beg to my liking, I’ll share the cover in the next blog post.
Look for it on Black Friday, with pre-orders starting in late September.
Erotica is Not a Bad Word!
People *mistakenly* associate erotica with porn, taboo, and books that only contain one sex scene after another. Maybe I’ve been misinterpreting it forever, but I view erotica as stories that have plots *AND* contain sex.
It was always an uphill battle to get romance authors to read an erotic novel. While they snubbed their noses at the entire genre, they gleefully touted their own books as having “steamy sex”. Sorry, but if you’re writing about the mechanics of sex, you’re writing erotica.
The other day an erotica author qualified his writing as being outside of the norm, because he likes to concentrate on the plot and characters, and how they interact within situations and overcome them. And this so disappointed me because why would an erotica author need to separate himself from his chosen genre?
On the other hand, I was talking about this with someone recently, who pointed out that I, too, make a distinction with my work. Of course, I challenged him and stated I do nothing of the sort! But he said my tagline distinguishes my work from the bulk of erotica.
I originally created the tagline because of my advertising background. Something quick to associate with my books–not to DISassociate from the genre. And it’s tongue in cheek, because it’s the opposite of what someone would expect with an erotica book warning: Severe Content Warning: B.J. Frazier books contain *plots* and *well-developed characters*.
It’s a fun joke to share at conventions, and I’ve received high praise. But now that I think about it, I wonder whether it IS a type of dissociation? Or if it’s perceived as such? I meant for it to be a way to stand out, a “branding”, if you will.
We should start a movement to read more erotica so that it becomes a common genre!
What do you think?
Bold Bots and Brainless Bots
I’ve seen an uptick in bot activity, and so have Oklahomardnk and KleinschwanzCucky. KC’s was a short message followed by a quick ask:
Bot: Hello, you small dicked cucky 🙂 / How would you feel, if you were allowed to serve me?
KC: That would be super kinky!
Bot: Don’t say that too early. Such an attention and intensive leadership and dominance are not for free.
Unfortunately, KC ended the conversation, so we don’t know how much such attention would have cost him. I will note, that this bot spoke German and didn’t appear to use AI in the message.
We’ve seen exchanges between Oklahomardnk and bots before, but this is the first time I’ve seen one be so bold so quickly:
Bot: Hello / How are you doing
Oklahomardnk: Hello
Bot: How are you doing
Okr: Not bad, got sand, sun and endless drinks for the next week… / You?
Bot: Really and I will love us to as fantastic relationship with you as my superior mistress
Okr: You want me as your superior Mistress?
Bot: Are you into submission
Okr: I am, are you going to submit to me?
Bot: You will be taught how to serve your mistress in all ways that you and I agree are correct and proper for our special relationship. This may include how to be feminine and serve your goddess by her command, how to walk on high heels, perform my domestic tasts, how to be submissive to my will and my cock. I take great pleasure transforming straight or bisexual boys into Sissy Sluts and bending them to my will. Teaching them how to please me for my amusement and pleasure I enjoy watching men perform orming domestic servitude, sissy maid tasks, sucking on my cock, begging me for strap-on training, dildo training, Sissy Slut training and Bi sexual activities.
Okr: So what is that going to cost me?
Bot: A $70 to welcome you into my new world
Okr: Ahhhh of course
Bot: So tell me what’s the method of your payment?
Okr: Back and foot rubs and other sexual favors…?
Please note there is zero acknowledgment of what Okr responds. The bot is focused entirely with its own agenda–which is to extract money. I want you to keep this in mind the next time your heart flutters when you read a similar message from what appears to be a dominant female… and then I want you to realize that it’s only a bot.
And here’s one I got just this morning:
Goddessboot: Hello looser
I’m including this for several reasons. First, many people are shocked that *I*, too, receive these stupid messages. So I’m showing it to you to prove that the bots do not look at anything before sending messages. Actually, I have a theory on this. I actively avoid reblogging anything with a call-to-action caption, like, “if you agree with this, then DM me” or “I can make your submissive dreams come true, DM me”, etc., because I don’t want to promote bots.
This week I did reblog a few because I was in need of posts. So my theory is: The bots are constantly creating blogs as theirs are banned. They will reblog from other bot blogs, and then contact any blog who likes, replies and/or reblogs the posts. So, be alert for this type of caption–I mainly see it in Tumblfux.
I also include it because it cracked me up when I saw its name, because I think it used one too many O’s. “Goddessbot” is much more indicative of the owner of this particular blog. 😀
Also, look at the first sentence: “Your weakness is my entertainment.” Wrong! Submission does not mean weakness. Anyone who knows anything about kink knows that… which means, this bot knows nothing about kink and is only there to make money.
The final reason is to show that this bot blog is NOT following me, thereby confirming my theory that bots contact people who “mark” certain posts.
No professional domme solicits subs. And definitely not without following the person.
Again, I urge you to not just block these types of blogs but report them. It’s essential to get them banned so they cannot continue to prey upon our community.
Have you had a funny or interesting interaction with a bot? Send it to me!
B.J.’s Online Book Club
The next Book Club will be Thursday, August 27, 2026 at 4p Eastern. Please note the new day and time.
You voted “The Cucksitter Training, Too” to be the book we will discuss.
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BlueSky ~ Not Safe for Work
BDSM Checklists
Check out my FREE BDSM Checklists.
I 
created two BDSM Checklists to assist with communication and negotiation. One is grouped by fetishes and the other is an alphabetical listing, and both have spaces for you to fill in additional ones.
Make sure you check out the Checklists! Then, tell me what you think and how you used them.
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Happy reading,
~B.J.
