Experience the popping of my cherry on my first podcast! The amazing ladies of the Elevate and Dommenate podcast talked to me about my writing. They were gracious, informed and asked insightful questions… and, most importantly, they were gentle enough that I didn’t need lube *grin*
The “orgy” comes from the three women, their engineer and Mistress Kayla’s baby (you’ll have to watch; no spoilers here).
It felt like four dominant women sitting around, having a great time discussing kink.
How’d this come about? I met Goddess Aroya at DomCon LA 2024. She entered the vending area, and I ran through my spiel. The more we talked, the more we vibed. She has an amazing energy and a vivacious personality. She invited me on the podcast, and I accepted.
Not seeing her the rest of the weekend, I thought, meh, whatever. She was still cool as fuck. But when I got the invitation, I was excited. More than that, though, she revealed in the podcast that she secretly followed me around DomCon for the rest of the weekend and became more convinced I needed to be a guest.
So. Not only did they deflower my podcast cherry, but Goddess Aroya gave me my first stalker! Gotta say, I kinda like it. And it just goes to show you, y’never know for whom or when you are performing a “hidden” interview or auditioning. 🙂
I had watched a few of their podcasts before the show, so I felt like I “knew” Mistresses Odessa and Kayla. And I look forward to meeting them in person at DomCon NOLA in October!
The morning we recorded, I woke up feeling like poop but knew the show must go on! I’m sure you can hear some rasp in my voice but hope the content made up for it. You tell me how I sounded!
Want to know more about my lovely hosts? Check them out in a professional setting, maybe book a session with any one of them at Venus in Bells. And also, check out their Dommenate website.
Last week, a New York Times article discussed a recent study that revealed the Orgasm Gap between the sexes has not closed. In fact, the older people get, the larger the gap becomes.
What is the gap?
Men have a higher rate of orgasm during sex than women.
A team of psychiatrists conducted a study of nearly 25,000 people in the United States aged 18 to 100 between 2015 and 2023. The results were published last month in Sexual Medicine. It showed that men’s orgasm rates are 22% to 30% higher than women’s, with men reporting they orgasm 72% to 85% of the time.
The doctors used a diverse group of people and concluded the disparity was due to multiple factors, including sociocultural norms and inadequate sex education.
I’m not a doctor (nor do I play one on TV) but I have a difficult time believing the stats are so skewed when women [*can*] have multiples. Sociocultural norms and sex education aside, my takeaway is twofold.
One, men need to put more focus on pleasing their partners. Learn how to distinguish a fake orgasm from a real one, and make sure only real ones occur. When you satisfy your partner, she’s more willing to return that in spades.
And two, women need to participate in their sexuality so they don’t have to resort to faking it.
The heart of both of these is communication. The more you communicate, the better you know how to please your partner, which, in turn, will lead to pleasing you. It’s a wonderful circle of ecstasy that begins with a conversation.
I just happened to come across this article but it also conveniently doubles as an extremely early preview for a pair of nonfiction books I’m working on. One is for women with a working title of “Permission to Enjoy Sex”. The other is for men, untitled so far.
Each book can be read by the opposite gender to gain insights. The primary focus of the set is how to actually start that conversation… then how to effectuate it.
They’re a long way off; until then, tell me what you think about the O Gap. Why do you think it exists? Have you seen it in within your relationships? I’m interested in your thoughts.
Comments have been positive following the release of the much-anticipated audiobook highlighting Jeneca Avery’s discovery of Dominance and submission.
Since it’s a new version and not a new book, there’s no way to write a review… unless you haven’t written a review yet.
Reviews are important, especially in the erotica genre. So go to Goodreads and write reviews for all of my books that you’ve read. Also, “like” the other positive reviews. Not only could you influence a potential reader but you’ll make me happy.
Sep’s birthday was last week, and I made a post so everyone could help him celebrate: For each mark of the post, sep had to spank himself. Between bdsmlr and Twitshitland, sep accumulated 192 marks–the last 10 were compliments of an unselfish Creative Survey vote by toymax.
Since it went well beyond my challenge, sep also has the task of recreating the pose in the image. It is Not Safe For Work but if you’d like to see the post, you can find it on my bdsmlr blog.
After sep suffered his 192 blows, he provided written and visual proof…
I decided to wear a hood and collar in case B.J. wants to post anything. I added purple cuffs she picked out at DomCon NOLA 2023 and my favorite, huge, purple ball gag to honor her.
After the first set of spankings
With instructions not to go overboard, I opted to complete 96 spankings, take a break and then do 96 more to complete the 192. I set up a camera so I could film the spankings. Using a leather paddle with a metal bar, I alternated hands every 10 spankings to ensure coverage.
I count every blow which, because of the hood, sounds more like a grunt. After the first five, it starts to hurt deep. The metal bar adds more than a sting. I complete 10 on each side, and it’s stinging and pounding now. After about 20 per side, though, it gets easier. I try to focus and strike harder to increase the impact, but it doesn’t seem to work… After 60 total, it starts to hurt again, worse than before. The last 8 per side, I go for it, striking as hard as I can.
Day-after Bruise
Afterwards, I watch the video and count every blow to make sure I’ve gotten them all. It hurts to sit. I did my best to make every blow count. I can feel part of my ass is swollen and stingy around the edges. It might bruise over time. The pics, surprisingly, don’t look that bad. Yet.
Thank you for the lovely birthday gift.
To sep: I’m glad you enjoyed the gift that kept on giving. I look forward to the recreation of the post’s pose! I hope you had a very happy birthday.
Multiperv ~ I’m glad you had such a great birthday, or at least it sounded, er, read like it was. [I did!]
I don’t recall hearing any tales of me being late for the particular occasion for my birth and unfortunately it’s too late to ask anyone now. But I’m pretty sure they would have mentioned it so maybe I was on time or early for that. And I AM capable of being on time for certain special occasions, as you’ve seen. [When you said you were the king of being late, I thought you were referencing your birth, too, MP]
sizeerrorprojection ~ 11lbs 12oz. Mom almost died. Max can call me whatever he wants. Can’t wait for the next book club! [Holy Fucking Shit, those aren’t human numbers, sep! :p]
anonymous ~ [regarding my interview] Wondering if I would make your Notch List, wishing I’d been in those chat rooms. I have cyber skills to make your notch list, even tho I only type half as rapidly as you. [Who’s to say we haven’t already sex-chatted? :D]
Kleinschwanzcucky ~ Miss, I’ve just watched your interview. It’s amazing, super entertaining! You’ve got such good chemistry with the lovely ladies! Thanks for sharing with us! And I’m kinda glad that we have the same hard limits. 😀 I didn’t hear that you were sick. You sounded great! I hope, you’re feeling better, though! [Thanks so much, KC! I am all better]
Jessie Spectre ~ Just listened to your interview. You were great! Nothing to worry about. Just fabulousness. [Thank you, Jessie!]
Thomas Antonson ~ You sounded great on the podcast! Realtime recording is going to have some flubs or stutters in it — that’s what makes it charming. It’s “real.” [Thank you, Thomas!]
rubbug ~ Podcast was awesome! You were funny, endearing, and you got some points across. I heard some stumbles but you recovered pretty well considering it was your first. You answered everything, there was a point where you literally forgot what you were trying to say but you found it and it was fine. [Thank you, rb!]
Send me your comments, and I’ll put them in the next blog post!
I created two BDSM Checklists to assist with communication and negotiation. One is grouped by fetishes and the other is an alphabetical listing, and both have spaces for you to fill in additional ones.
Make sure you check out the Checklists! Then, let me know what you think and how you used them.
Do you have a kinky question you’d like answered? Use the contact form to submit your question. All questions will be kept anonymous unless you’d prefer to be named.
A team of psychiatrists conducted a study of nearly 25,000 people in the United States aged 18 to 100 between 2015 and 2023. The results were published last month in Sexual Medicine. It showed that men’s orgasm rates are 22% to 30% higher than women’s, with men reporting they orgasm 72% to 85% of the time.
Comments have been positive following the release of the much-anticipated audiobook highlighting Jeneca Avery’s discovery of Dominance and submission.
e next Online Book Club: Saturday, August 24, 2024 at 4:00 p.m., Eastern. We will be discussing “Eli – Book Three ~ The Perversion”
