The Dominion and the Sugilite ~ Episode 3
B.J. Frazier’s brand new Fantasy/Sci-Fi Erotic Soap Opera with a Femdom slant continues…
Are Satyrs really annoying?
Who are the Arbiters of Justice?
What is Cozima up to?
Why is Geo monitoring Aurora’s vital signs?
What are Flint’s crimes?
Do the Centaurs have a case?
Will Gemma get the recognition she craves?
To whom and how do the Naturalists pray?
Discover the answers to these questions and more in the next delicious nugget of “The Dominion and the Sugilite”… with Episode 4 coming soon.
Get your copy today then tell me what you think. Tell me what you think will happen, what you hope will happen, and which characters you like or (*gasp*) dislike.
Listen to B.J.
Allow me to introduce Gaius [GYE’iss] or as he’s known to his friends, Outré [OO’tray]. Gaius is a Satyr who came crashing into the story with a distinct cadence and style of speaking… and he’s become my new favorite character in the soap opera!
You’re welcome.
Tell me what you think, and keep those reviews coming!
I help many people understand toys and/or basic kink as well as coach them on communicating. Specifically, men who are in longstanding relationships and want to bring up the kink topic with their partners.
I am an amazing coach. Take my word for it… and others’, too. I’ve asked people to write letters of recommendation. If you missed the first one, you can read it here. There’s a second one here.
Letter of Recommendation from toymax:
I live in a vanilla marriage but have some secret kinks and desires. I love my wife and would never cheat on her, which is why I tried a few things to make my sex-life a bit more spicy in the past. I even asked a few people in social media how to include my wife in my fantasies and kinks. It all got worse. It got to the point where I disappointed my wife and made her cry. That was the day I decided to lock my secret desires in a box and put it away. It took a while until my wife and I were fine again – at least I thought we would be fine again.
One lucky day I got the chance to talk to Miss B.J. Frazier. She suspected that something was hidden deep inside me that shouldn’t be suppressed. She made me open up and pour my heart out to her. It was a painful but very healing process. She was able to show me a perspective that I would never have been able to take on my own. She then gave me valuable advice on how I could bring the previously unresolved and still open issue with my wife to a conclusion without it ending in disaster.
But she wouldn’t be a fantastic sex coach if she didn’t have advice for me on how I could slowly introduce my wife to parts of my fantasies without overwhelming her or myself.
With Miss B.J. Frazier’s help, my wife and I were able to experience moments that I would not have imagined possible just before. My wife and I are closer now than ever before. The way Miss B.J. Frazier analyzes backgrounds and then derives advice in a perfect dose from them is unique. She always takes her time for me in our conversations which is one part what makes me feel like I’m being taken seriously. Another part is, that She never judges but always tries to help. I can feel and experience that Miss B.J. Frazier knows exactly what she’s talking about. It’s never something like: “do this – do that”, she provides background information WHY it is good to do this and WHY it’s not good to do that and where I have to pay attention. I am endlessly grateful to Miss B.J. Frazier and can fully recommend her as a sex coach.
~toymax
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The Eclipse
I traveled with my girls to Toledo to watch the totality last week. Even took the boys–the four-legged ones. And they got to ride in an elevator! They were very skeptical about it.
We worried about the clouds, but the glasses provided a clear view. The University of Toledo was putting on a free event, so we hung out there in some trees to keep the boys away from people.
I took one cool picture before the event but all of the others didn’t turn out. I even put the glasses over the lens but still nothin’.
I’m disappointed because I made this huge thing out to making sure someone wore green because I had a red T-shirt. The eclipse was supposed to do weird things with how we perceive color, and those were the ones that were supposed to stand out. But I didn’t notice anything. There was even a red leash, a red tote bag, and green grass. Nothin’.
Was it a joke or did I miss something?
Regardless, I lay on the grass and watched the miraculous transformation. It was awesome. A bit eerie. Definitely cold. But so totally profound.
It was cool to be in the vicinity of so many people. Humanity was good, somehow redeemed. And people cheered at totality.
Of course, for me, that was a bit over the top. I even said, “Yay, Nature. As if it’s putting on a show for us.” And I blew raspberries.
Still, though, there was a connection. And I’m glad I got to experience it.
submissiveforDomme took better pictures and said I could share. For our friends not in the path, here you go. For the ones who watched, tell me about it. How did you feel?
Bot Patrol
Lately, whenever I come across a bot in bdsmlr, I notify the admins and then make a warning post. Many people will thank me for keeping the community safe, which I’m happy to do. But as the saying goes: It takes a village.
Recently, I came across a similar warning post from sizeerrorprojection, after he encountered a bot. This made me so happy, I needed to share.
If we all take the time to notify the admins AND make posts to warn each other, the defense against bots becomes immensely stronger.
Here’s the wording I use… feel free to incorporate it or copy it outright:
____ IS A BOT. I’VE NOTIFIED THE ADMINS BUT THEY HAVE NOT BANNED IT YET. PLEASE DO NOT ENGAGE, DO NOT GO OFF-SITE, AND DO NOT PROVIDE ANY PERSONAL INFORMATION!
I’ve decided to use the blog’s address instead of tagging the bot, since there’s no use alerting the bot that we know. 😉
I then keep the bot’s blog and my post open in separate tabs. Once the admins ban the blog, I will delete my warning post.
Let’s keep our community safe!
New Book Club Book
You voted “Eli Book One ~ The Seduction” to be our next discussion book. Jessie Spectre was pleased when I told him, and he is looking forward to joining us.
Now you have two authors of whom to ask questions. It’s going to be great!
Read the book, send in questions and mark your calendars for the next Online Book Club: Saturday, May 4, 2024 at 4:00 p.m., Eastern.
DM me to be included in the next Book Club:
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Here’s what you had to say after the last blog post.
Kleinschwanzcucky ~ Thanks for featuring me in your blog, Miss. I love your voice message. I promise I’ll read your book, soon; I do believe, it might hit all my right buttons. I’m kind of a SciFi nerd, too. 😀 Have a nice day
One more thing: I’ll never understand the American morality concerning sexuality. Germany is quite open regarding this topic, BUT an absolute no go is public nudity. I’m not talking flashing or something like that. That’s sexual harassment. But an event like the World Nude Bike Race, or what’s it called, you know what I mean? I would love to attend something like that. But it never happened in Germany, because local authorities wouldn’t allow it. That’s crazy. England, Netherlands, Australia, they all host these events regularly. Strange! [I had to look this up. It’s called World Naked Bike Ride. I agree with you about what the morality police say about sex… keep in mind that the “majority” of them are the worst offenders in private!]toymax ~ I like Your audio part, Miss B.J. I‘m happy to say: I pronounced Galvantine intuitively right. 😀 [You’re a good boy, Max!]
rubbug ~ I just read the latest blog post and realized I’ve been reading Cybele wrong, read it as sigh-bell. Always great to hear your voice, though, and having some things clarified in the latest series with pronunciation is good, too. [That one’s on you because I did have a phonetic for Cybele in the first episode :p]
Also, the chastity cage advice is good. And the articles you linked to are pretty informative. [You’re welcome, rb! Thank you for the feedback]
LeftField ~ I found the comment in your last post from Nerts2u about not falling in love with a sex worker interesting. Alexandra Snow had a clip on discussing what it takes to be a good submissive and in it, she touches on what’s required if you want to develop a long-term relationship with a pro domme. Developing a long-term relationship with a pro domme does not mean falling in love with them. It does mean that you spend time getting to know her and how you can best support her, especially outside of a session. That takes time. I’m fortunate to do that with my mistress. We both thoroughly enjoy the time we spend with each other, both in person and remotely, but I wouldn’t consider the connection romantic. It’s being close friends with some sexual undertones but also knowing that is where it belongs. [Thanks for sharing, LF. As a reminder to others, N2u’s question was initially related to Book Club, where we discussed “Best Served Cold”, which explores the dynamic of falling in love with a mistress on a professional and personal side with two different characters.]
Thomas Antonson ~ Far be it from me to contradict my employer, but it feels odd to take pronunciation notes from someone who can’t even pronounce “sauna.” I’m also curious, B.J., did your mom ever put Bactine on your boo-boos when you were a wee bairn? Kidding aside, you created Galvantine, so you get to say how it’s pronounced. Even if you’re wrong. It’s your world. We’re just living in it. [My mom sent me a Valentine saying she was mine and I was her sunshine. She declined to put me on a turbine, an airline in the skyline, afraid of the incline. I opine that thine will not whine–whether online or offline–about the supine, bovine, combine nor the way Galvantine has been defined again! :p]
I must confess to being so proud of my reply that I sent it to Thomas ahead of publication… and he sent me back this limmerick:
A highly decorated U.S. Marine
Was enjoying a cup of Ovaltine
(contained in a cup of travertine)
Burning his lip he cried, “Bactine!”“Bring my Bactine, my sweet Emmaline!”
“Silly Marine,” laughed Emmaline,
“To heat your cup of Ovaltine
In a cup made out of travertine!”
Thomas ~ it’s cute, for sure, and made me smile. But I don’t understand why you chose EmmaLIIIIINE and not a name that rhymed with “een”, like, Kathleen?? :p
Send me your comments, and I’ll put them in the next blog post!
BDSM Checklists
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I created two BDSM Checklists to assist with communication and negotiation. One is grouped by fetishes and the other is an alphabetical listing, and both have spaces for you to fill in additional ones.
Make sure you check out the Checklists! Then, let me know what you think and how you used them.
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This is a follow-up to the question about steel cages. Original question and answers can be found in this blog post.
From the original asker: Thanks for the detailed information on the chastity cages. Very interesting and helpful. Really
appreciate it. As I don’t have a partner, I’m just experimenting on my own, right now. And yeah, I’m not planning to wear it indefinitely. But I totally agree with you: It seems much more hygienic than plastic. And as my plastic cage is a bit bigger, it might be best suited for some fun playtime, if the situation arises, one day, *sigh*
You’re welcome, and thanks for the follow-up. Looks like you’ve chosen a great one!
This asker sent a picture of the cage he chose:
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Happy reading,
~B.J.
