What’s that, you ask?? It’s this rare opportunity where you find yourself with tons of time. It’s best when it coincides with nothing to do but relax. My extra time was sadly created from a negative… Thomas, my sound guy, had a blast on his first cruise last week (see picture and message, below) BUT got exposed to COVID–and not the good kind of exposed. 🙁
We were set to finish recording “Mistress Managed – Book Three” this week, and correct any blips from the previous recordings. Now, instead of recording, I am spending my time with you… you’re welcome *grin*
Thomas also had a great idea to create a bloopers reel of our outtakes, and he’s teased me, during the processing phase, that he’s laughed at our mix-ups. He also wants to interview me about becoming an author, writing “Mistress Managed”, and my journey as a writer. He’s been with me since the beginning, and he sees a change in my writing and thinks you would enjoy that interview.
I told him I want to interview him on what it was like to read a B.J. Frazier book with B.J. Frazier standing right next to him! 🙂
I think we’ll do it as a separate, extra feature just for my website.
As always, newsletter subscribers will be the first to know and will probably get a special coupon. So if you’re not signed up yet, subscribe today at the bottom of any page on my website.
This is Knot DomCon Update
The first book in the trilogy is live! If you haven’t read it yet, start today because Book Two will be published at the end of the month.
In fact, it’s available for pre-order now. Take the stress out of getting the latest B.J. Frazier book, and get an email notification when it’s available to download. Pre-order today!
In another part of my brain, the details of another world are being formed. While I am loving the entire process of “This is Knot DomCon”, I am looking forward to starting my erotic/sci-fi soap opera, “The Dominion and the Sugilite” (Soo’gi’lite).
The saga centers around three women: Aurora, the current leader of the Dominion; Cozima (Co’zee’muh), the owner of sugilite mines and jewelry stores; and Pebbles, a teenager working in a jewelry store, aspiring to be part of the Dominion.
They live on a planet, Cybele (Si’bi’lee), where women rule and dominate most of the men; but there are some outliers, who cause tension. There are other planets; not all of which have positive feelings toward Cybele.
Rubbug created tons of iterations of each of the women until we got to the final cover. Isn’t it awesome?! Many thanks and tons of *hugs* to rubbug for his tireless efforts in creating this beautiful cover, which inspires me to create a kinky and perverted soap opera.
I’m intentionally not telling you the women’s identities nor explaining the images. Tell me what you see!
Bot Brief
First of all, if you’re in a cold climate, I hope you and your loved ones are doing well amidst the recent snow, floods and volcanic eruptions!
Sometimes in the winter, people are more isolated because no one feels like braving the weather. It leaves us feeling more lonely than normal, especially after the holidays. Whether you’re lonely or simply desperate to find a dominant, I urge you to be skeptical if you receive a DM invitation to submit from an account with a pretty avatar.
Last week in bdsmlr, I received the ever-popular opening bot DM “Hi”. I went to the blog’s archive page and discovered it only had *two* posts–and they were both the same reblog!
In the same time frame, IamHerProperty notified me about the same bot. He received a “picture of the bot” in the course of communicating. Suspecting the image was stolen, he put it into a Google image search. The search revealed it was a pro domme. Out of curiosity, IHP followed the links to her bio, which led to her studio. To IHP’s surprise, the pro domme runs the studio with another domme he KNOWS!
When IHP first asked where the bot was, it replied “UK”. When he said that he’s in Germany, the bot made a quick move to Berlin. *sigh* Thanks to IHP for sharing his story.
It’s rare to get images but not unheard of, and it’s a great time to remind you to do a reverse image search with any picture you get. If you find the image, chances are very high you’re not talking with the person in the picture; that it’s being used to dupe you. Please don’t get duped.
I understand the craving to submit makes you think with the wrong body part. That’s why I take the time to warn you now. Hopefully, when you’re in that situation, more rational heads will prevail 🙂
If you have some of that elusive “extra time” and would like to engage in a funny conversation with a bot, please copy it and send it to me. I will include them in future blog posts so we can get a laugh… and a reminder that dominants don’t beg for submissives.
Here’s what you had to say after the last blog post.
Multiperv ~ That post about BDSM getting younger is interesting, and somewhat scary. I agree there is usually enough pressure around losing one’s virginity without piling a lot of kink on top. That said, someone who is anxious or uncertain about what to do might appreciate being dominated. And that bit about young people trying choking is scary. That is NOT a ‘day one’ kink activity. I’ve never thought of ‘vanilla shaming’, but I can imagine teenagers doing that. Suggesting that parents talk to their kids is good. Even if you’re not educated or experienced, there’s the internet, etc. [Scary, indeed! Just start talking and keep talking… to clarify, I didn’t have the great idea for parents to talk; that was the professor in the article. I merely supported it.]
Another good thing to do is comment on social media posts that don’t seem safe. I’ve occasionally responded with concerns about the images along with a reminder to ‘not break your toys’. [Excellent idea, MP! There’s a big difference between fantasy and reality, especially where safety is concerned]
Ah, a D word to go with the s one. Of course. Good choice. And yes, Trekkie is spelled that way. Some of them get snippy and prefer Trekker but I’m not sure I agree and I think they’ve given up that battle anyway. [I’m glad you see it my way… with the sneak peek at the cover, hopefully you can SEE it more clearly :p]
On the subject of you learning German, one of my old fantasies involves a sub being sent to new owners in a foreign country. There, they would only be taught keywords a slave would need to know: stand, kneel, spread, clean, kiss, lick, suck, faster, slower, etc. In reality, it would probably become rather isolating or depressing but as a fantasy it seems kind of hot. [Interesting concept! I see a story in there, MP]
At any rate, I would also certainly like to hear you speak some German words, particularly ones that a Dom(me) might say. I liked the audio clip, though I think I got lost on the meaning after Vie Gates (sp?) which is a phrase I have heard but don’t recall the meaning. [Translation in the Germany section, below]
Re. SEP’s question, which I appreciate, honestly, I think I was thinking they had their own special baggage claim, which would probably get removed from the planes and brought in first, and perhaps cordoned off so they got pestered less by fans and subs. But one type of baggage they might appreciate or prefer is a hard-sided one in red, black, or pink to give them some style and pizzazz. [haha… excellent response. The hardside also comes in purple, which I have on my Wish List–and to be all-inclusive, I also have a soft-sided wish :p]
I see you have a (semi?) new reader or commenter called Captain Encinoman. Given that Encino is a city in the San Fernando Valley north of L.A. I would hope we’ll be seeing him at Domcon LA. Then again, maybe it’s just a reference to the 90s movie with Pauly Shore (which I never saw). [Unfortunately, I cannot ask him because the lovely Tumblfux deactivated his account. I think he’s a subscriber, so hopefully he’ll see this and reach out!]
It looks like you’re going to have to take turns leading men around, or maybe you’ll link them all together and have a sub coffle at DomCon. That would probably turn some envious heads, on both sides. [Oooh, I like that idea, MP!]
IamHerProperty ~ German is such a difficult language to learn, I am absolutely amazed by everyone who is learning it. Congratulations on your progress, even when I am sorry to hear you had a bad day. Your pronunciation is good for a start. I will record the same sentence for you, if you wish. [Thank you! High praise from a German… see more response, below]
submissiveforDomme ~ Awesome advice in the “is BDSM getting younger” section. I thought about, and I’m not sure how to bring it up without giving my son any ideas he doesn’t already have or even communicate to figure out what he needs to know. Hopefully it will make it easier for him and more likely for him to as further questions of me. [I’m glad you’re thinking about it. The more you communicate, the easier it will be for both of you to talk about awkward subjects. Perhaps the approach can be as easy as “I read this article about rough sex and teens…”]
Kleinschwanzcucky ~ Oh, it’s awesome, you nailed it! Vielen Dank! 🙂 Oh. And sorry, that you had a bad day, then. [Sehr gerne, KC 🙂 …I didn’t really have a bad day; I just think that sentence sounds like I know how to speak German *grin*]
Thomas Antonson reading “A Domme for Christmas” at the beach
Thomas Antonson ~ Here’s me at the beach on the Mexican Riviera reading “A Domme for Christmas.”
toymax ~ On the AI part: Wow, I never heard about it. It scares me a bit, although I can understand that Sex Workers use the opportunity of AI-driven sexy chat bots. I’ve never sexted with a Sex Worker but to be honest, I wouldn’t want to try it with a chatbot. I prefer the real version. [I also see the appeal but would prefer live, Max]
On “Is BDSM getting younger”? I’m shocked about the statistics. But I have to admit that it’s not easy to talk to kids about this topic. But these statistics seem to make it necessary. [Start talking and keep talking!]
The semantic smile taken from Tumblr
The semantic smile made me smile, too. I fully agree and sometimes I even ‘get’ it. [haha… I remember you messaged me right after the last blog post went live, telling me you got it, which is hugely impressive since you don’t speak English as your first language!]
On Your voice recording: I’m so proud of You, Mistress B.J. You did so well. I hope You enjoyed it, too, and You will continue to learn and speak my difficult language. It would be an honor to support You. Thank You so much for Your recording. [Awww, thank you. Of course I will continue… see the Germany section below!]
rubbug ~ Congrats on Book 2 of This is Knot Domcon becoming available for pre-order. I’m very much looking forward to it. [Thank you; I’m so excited for people to read it!]
AI becoming a thing in nearly every facet of every industry is concerning. While I definitely see the benefits, I think it’s growing at a pace that seems unreal. I wonder how long until it grows out of our control and the shackles are released? Might be like Terminator but now with kinky sex bots. [Yes, but in “Terminator”, the robots decided to destroy mankind… My fear with AI is that humans become obsolete]
Oh, almost forgot to mention that hearing speak German put a smile on my face. Idk what you said but sounded legit. [Thank you 🙂 See translation, below]
Tell me what you think of this post, and you’ll see your comment in the next one!
Germany
As promised, toymax has had fun with his birthday challenge from last month and sent us proof. He was to use kitchen utensils on himself and incorporate the number 48 somehow. His only specific instruction was to make sure one of the tools was his happy-face spatula.
Clicking the picture will go to the NSFW image on bdsmlr
Here is the censored version. For the complete montage, visit the post on bdsmlr, which is a Not Safe For Work site, and the picture is most definitely not work-appropriate… but it IS an incredible must-see.
Thank you all for the compliments on learning German and on my pronunciation. I have since learned, however, that I misunderstood one of the vowels in “schlechten”. I thought the first was a short E not a slight-long A. IamHerProperty corrected me in a recording, where he spoke English and then my same sentences in German. He is much better at speaking English than I am at speaking German… though, to be fair, I *just* started to learn, and my learning is intermittent.
After listening to IHP’s recording, I spoke with toymax, who confirmed IHP’s pronunciation. Max said he deemed my recording “perfect” because I was just learning, though it was not “perfect-perfect”. He got scolded with a smile in my voice. Takeaway for my ego is one syllable off in three sentences–which was my own mishearing–is pretty damn good! And I am proud of myself.
Going forward, Max is aware that I demand perfection… even if I may not have the required saliva to attain it. *grin*
I purposefully omitted the translation last time. Not really sure what I was thinking–maybe if my pronunciation was so good that you’d be able to interpret it? *shrug* Anyway, I said, “Hallo, I am B.J. Frazier. Wie geht es dir? Ich hatte einen schlechten Tag”, which means: “Hello, I am B.J. Frazier. How are you? I had a bad day.”
Sizeerrorprojection joked that he wanted to hear me say “On your knees, boy”; however, Max said a domme would never say this. Instead, she’d say, on your knees, slave, or Auf die Knie, sklave. In learning this one, I learned that the E at the end of hatte is more like “teh” instead of “tay”. I am determined to learn properly, and I will include my recording in the next blog post… alas, something else I was going to do with Thomas *sigh*
Apparently I do requests now… I expect a proper thank you from sep later.
I was with family this past weekend, when a German person greeted my niece (they knew each other). After their conversation, I said, “Wie geht es dir?”, and he smiled and gave me a thumbs up. While I was disappointed he didn’t respond in German, I was glad he understood me.
I need to learn more German so I can have a better conversation. Currently, I can ask Max how his weather is, which is something I’d like to know. When I’m with someone in person, however, it seems a rather moot question. 😀
Online Book Club
The next Online Book Club will be THIS Saturday, January 20, 2024 at 4:00 p.m., Eastern. You have chosen “A Domme for Christmas” as the next book!
I created two BDSM Checklists to assist with communication and negotiation. One is grouped by fetishes and the other is an alphabetical listing, and both have spaces for you to fill in additional ones.
Make sure you check out the Checklists! Then, let me know what you think and how you used them.
And feel free to buy me a drink!
Last blog post, you were asked which kink scenes have stood out. Here are some responses:
toymax ~ I have a Femdom movie scene – but it’s just a short one: James Bond – “The World is not Enough.” The scene where Elektra King tortures James Bond on an old torture chair. [Very cool, Max… except for the ending of the scene but, well, he’s James Bond :)]
MultiPerv ~ I agree, Season 2 of Bonding probably should have come before Season 1, but I think it’s due to a backlash from the kink community about Season 1. Hopefully, it will be something of a cautionary tale for others who are starting to experiment! [Agreed]
I too liked the spanking in Exit to Eden, as well as when she came out of the pool and used Elliot’s back for her seat. There is also the brief good scene where Iman grinds on a sub with her booted foot to get some information. It’s mostly played for laughs but it was yummy for the kinksters.
I recall the food scene from 9-1/2 weeks being good; some iceplay, and Mickey Rourke feeding Kim Basinger some food in front of the open fridge. [Yeah, she was blindfolded, and he seductively dragged food around her body, let her smell it, then let her taste it]
Thanks to Sean, I’ll have to check out Body of Proof.
Your audience might also enjoy Mr. Robot (which is better than its name, which eventually makes sense) as it has a recurring harsh relationship where the dominant woman has her partner service top her a couple of times. Oh, and it’s less frequent but there is a hot Fm Femdom scene or two in Orphan Black. [Thanks for the tips–I grew bored with Mr. Robot before the D/s, I think]
Do you have a kinky question you’d like answered? Use the contact form to submit your question. All questions will be kept anonymous unless you’d prefer to be named.
We were set to finish recording “Mistress Managed – Book Three” this week, and correct any blips from the previous recordings. Now, instead of recording, I am spending my time with you… you’re welcome *grin*
I understand the craving to submit makes you think with the wrong body part. That’s why I take the time to warn you now. Hopefully, when you’re in that situation, more rational heads will prevail 🙂
Re. SEP’s question, which I appreciate, honestly, I think I was thinking they had their own special baggage claim, which would probably get removed from the planes and brought in first, and perhaps cordoned off so they got pestered less by fans and subs. But one type of baggage they might appreciate or prefer is a hard-sided one in red, black, or pink to give them some style and pizzazz. [haha… excellent response. The hardside also comes in purple, which I have on my Wish List–and to be all-inclusive, I also have a soft-sided wish :p]
