A legal battle begins in this episode of B.J. Frazier’s Fantasy/Sci-Fi Erotic Soap Opera with Femdom themes.  Take care to read this incredible space opera in order.

Why does Aurora punish Geo?

What is Bay plotting?

How does Gaius present his case?

Plus:  Futa shake making; Cozima’s fight; Neelam’s defense; and more in the next installment of “The Dominion and the Sugilite”… with Episode 23 coming soon.

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If you haven’t started the series yet, you can jump in by getting The First Season at a discount, and don’t forget to get the First Supplement, which contains all the behind-the-scenes tidbits as well as charts and episode synopses.

A huge thank you to everyone who takes the time to rate my books on Goodreads.

As of publication, there are only 21 more reviews needed to reach 500.  We can do this by the summer!

Check out all my reviews on Goodreads, and like the positive ones… and while you’re there, write some reviews.  I know there are many of you who have read and not reviewed yet.

Reviews matter, plus, you will please me by writing them–win-win!  *grin*

B.J.’s Online Book Club

You voted to read the First Season of “The Dominion and the Sugilite”.  Thank you for not voting for “Perchance to Dream – Book Two”  😀

The next Online Book Club is Saturday, June 21, 2025 at 4:00 p.m., Eastern.

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DomCon Industry Only Writing Class

DomCon L.A. is June 4-8, which is right around the corner.  This time I’ll not only be a vendor, but a presenter!

I am proud to announce that I have been accepted to teach an Industry Only Class:  “A Story Worth Telling”.  Of course it’s about writing!  So many people approach me at conferences and say they tried writing or have a great story or want to write their autobiography.

As a former high school English teacher, it was tons of fun to create a lesson plan again.  It’s also my first Power Point presentation… which I never would’ve been able to do without the huge assistance from toymax.  Not only did he give me tips but he helped to add spice to my slides (and gifted me a remote control!).  Danke, Max!

I’m so excited to teach this class and see everyone at DomCon.  Let me know if you’re going!

Bots, Continued

IamHerProperty sent me this funny recently.  I say “funny” but I post it here in warning.  For all you subbies out there who get flattered by “DMs” from “dominant women”… use your brains.  Dommes don’t solicit subs.

Here is a funny pick-up line I got on FetLife:

“I’m a humble and easy going Mistress looking for a kind hearted and loyal sub who is willing to submit himself and respect me for whom I’m . I’m a strong Mistress and I take serving so serious, I have the inner strength to go places inside me to guide you and make you a better sub.”

Humble and easy going? Hrm, I am not sure if that is what I am looking for in a Domme. “respect me for whom I’m”? I’d respect them if they would use proper grammar.

Oh, and suddenly they are a strong Mistress. With the inner strength to “go places inside me”? What?

Bad translation? AI? Anyhow, reported, because if that ain’t a scam, I don’t know what is. And I have reported the user, of course, saying what you also stress: No Domme on earth hits up random subs, anywhere. And had they read my profile, it says that I am property, so anyone really in the BDSM world should understand that whatever I am looking for, it is not a new Mistress 😉

IHP ~ I *love* that you seek proper grammar, especially from someone who speaks English as a second language!  Bestill my 💜

For the subs, pay attention to the many mistakes in any message you receive from a “domme”; they are all red flags.  Do not give out personal information.  Do not go off-site with any account until you are sure it is a real person with whom you’re talking.  And above all, use your uppermost head!

Here’s what you said after the last blog post.

toymax ~ Thank You for writing this very detailed add-on for D/s. While reading, it was as if I was reliving each episode. However the background information has raised new ideas about how things will continue. You know what I mean, Mistress B.J. I can’t wait to read more. Of course I wrote a goodreads review for the supplement.  [Yes, your feedback tickles me, and I love how much you are enjoying the soap opera, Max!]

You’re very welcome, Mistress B.J. I’m very happy to be able to support You and know that Your class will be an awesome experience.  [Danke DIR, Max!!]

Send me your comments, and I’ll put them in the next blog post!

BDSM Checklists

Check out my FREE BDSM Checklists.

I created two BDSM Checklists to assist with communication and negotiation.  One is grouped by fetishes and the other is an alphabetical listing, and both have spaces for you to fill in additional ones.

Make sure you check out the Checklists!  Then, let me know what you think and how you used them.

Question:  Miss Frazier, do you have any advice, how I might get my girlfriend to peg me? She knows that I’m submissive and she loves getting her sweet pussy eaten. But she doesn’t like anal. We do oral and vaginal sex, mostly.

B.J.’s Answer:  Thanks for the question!  This doesn’t help at the moment, but I am currently writing a nonfiction pair of books–“Permission to Enjoy Sex” for women, and one for men (untitled), which will cover this topic as well as how men and women communicate/think differently, and how to bring up the kink topic in longstanding relationships.  In the meantime, “They Wanted It” is a good fiction book about how a husband gets his wife to dominate him.

Back to your question… when you said she doesn’t like anal, I assume you’re asking about pegging.  Pegging is pretty far down the kink hole.  Even though you say she knows you’re submissive… I don’t know if she’s dominant.  To a vanilla person, pegging is extreme, and it could turn a person off to all kink if presented as a must-have, especially as an opener to kink in general.

Instead, I recommend having a general kink conversation and discussing some milder kinky things first, then building onto it.  For example, play with her back door while you go down on her, then do it while you’re having sex.  Later, talk about how she liked it… and how you’d like her to try it on you.

The conversation can lead in many directions from there; hopefully, all being more kink adventurous.  If she balks, let it lie for a while before bringing it up again.  This is a marathon; not a speed race.  Once you get her to try digital penetration, enjoy that for a while.  Next, you may want to add a dildo into your play.  First on her–front or back–and then say you’d like to experience it.  If things go well, again, enjoy it for a while.

You don’t want to make her feel like she’s being rushed, and your goal shouldn’t be completely focused on pegging.  Instead, enjoy the journey.  Build the kink in your relationship together, and savor every moment.  After playing with a dildo, she should be more receptive to a conversation about pegging.  Don’t forget to explain about the male P-spot.

Good luck, and let me know how it progresses!

Thomas’ Answer:  There’s a lot to unpack in these three sentences.  I’ll just start by saying that I agree with B.J.

One of my pet peeves is that pegging is generally assumed to be about D/s.  I object to that characterization.

Many people regard anal sex as dirty (which it can be if the right preparations are not made), and taboo.  Your partner may have objections to pegging aside from D/s.

Before you even get to the point of discussing this, however, you must have a general discussion with your partner about the whole idea of her dominating you.  She may not be open to that at all.  If she is, then the choice of whether to peg you is hers.

As part of your discussion of D/s, you might show her some videos of a man being dominated by a woman, gradually working up pegging.  I emphasize gradually.  Start with small things that she can order you to do or not do.  Then work your way up.

Above all, D/s is about trust.  You need to get to the point where you trust each other completely in order to proceed very far down the D/s highway.  Good luck!

For other kinky advice, check my blog archives.

Happy reading,

~B.J.