One year ago today, I released the first episode of my space opera “The Dominion and the Sugilite”. Today, I released the start of Season 3, which contains another Attis Day competition and continues the story lines.
Why can’t Aurora tell Geo?
What does Naqqi think of Attis Day?
Who wins the competition?
Plus: Dayra’s directive; Ailsa’s attack; Chantal’s retreat; Cozima’s win; Geo’s duties; and more in this Season Three opener of “The Dominion and the Sugilite”… with Episode 22 coming soon.
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Released two weeks ago was the “D/s” Season 2 finale. Newsletter subscribers received notification on the day of publication. Make sure you get the next update by subscribing to my newsletter at the bottom of this page.
Things explode in the Season Two Finale of B.J. Frazier’s Fantasy/Sci-Fi Erotic Soap Opera with Femdom themes. Take care to read this incredible space opera in order.
What is Naqqi’s Dominion observation?
How do Pebbles and Ailsa domme Flint?
What is Aurora’s big reveal?
Plus: Gaius’ sentence; Cozima’s misperception; Gemma’s acceptance; and more in this Season Two Finale of “The Dominion and the Sugilite”… with Episode 21–Season Three Attis Day–coming soon.
If you haven’t read it yet, get your copy today!
Haven’t started the series yet? No worries. The entire First Season is available at a discount. So get those books crackin’ and yourself jackin’!
Update!
We’re only 40 reviews away from reaching 500 reviews on Goodreads. If you’ve read one of my books but haven’t left a review yet… do it now! And while you’re there, “like” the other positive reviews, too.
We can do this!
When I started writing, I was just writing. Meaning, I never considered my words would be turned into books… Readers would enjoy my books… I would attend conferences… I would meet readers… I would meet readers around the world… nor that I would come to care about so many of you.
Not only have I done all that, but some readers have done amazingly incredible and generous things for me. And that blows my mind.
Last month, Morgan Greystroke met Thomas Antonson and I in Arizona to run the sound board while we recorded more books. We had so much fun and were highly productive. We recorded FOUR books: “Her Wish. His Command.”, “I Blame Quentin Tarantino”, and “Perchance to Dream – Books One and Two”.
Audiobooks are in post-production now and will be coming soon!
I am grateful and touched that Morgan and Thomas have given their time, talents and friendship so freely. I am extremely lucky. Thank you, thank you, thank you! *hugs*
New Banner
In another act of talent and generosity, toymax designed my new banner. With over 75 books written, I thought it was time to make an updated banner. When I talked with toymax, he offered to do it for me.
Newsletter subscribers got the first sneak peek in the last blog post. Don’t miss another update; sign up for my newsletter today!
Toymax yearns to be my booth boy at a kink conference. With him living in Germany, however, the distance makes it nearly impossible. Helping me to have a better vending experience is the closest he can come.
This past weekend, I attended the Leather Leadership Conference (review coming next week!), and toymax’s banner made its first appearance in public. Many people admired it, and I told them about toymax and how he created it. I also said that while he’s not able to physically be in my booth, he’s with me in spirit. The people looked at the banner, listened to my story, and then said, “awww, that’s so sweet.”
Max, the banner is stunning! I felt you with me this weekend, and I hope you felt a smidge of that. *hugs*
Here’s what you said after the last blog post.
sizeerrorprojection ~ After servicepet’s comments in today’s blog I’ve gone from “a definite not going to see it” to “avoid ‘Babygirl’ like the plague”. [*laughing*]
Multiperv ~ Big congrats on being INVITED to vend at the LLC (the naughty version of that acronym). I’m guessing you’ll be doing a reading from one of the Eli books? And it being an award winning series doesn’t hurt either, I’d imagine. [I will tell you all about it in the next blog, coming next week!]
Thanks for the picture and shoutout about Isabel. I thought things would die down emotionally, and they have to a degree, but I’ve had a couple of big ‘pangs’ yesterday, and just now. I just want to go cuddle with her on my bed for awhile. [It is never easy, MP, and I know just how you feel. It’s been several months for me, and I am still missing my baby *hugs*]
I’m really sorry to read you’ve been sick and I hope that is long behind you today. [Thank you. I was sick for a long time, but I am better now–I hope! :)]
Thomas Antonson ~ The new banner looks fantastic. It’s another reminder of how prolific you’ve been in the femdom genre and D/s in general. It’s a well-rounded body of work with something for almost everyone — well, the kinky people, anyway. You really do live up to your warning about plots and well-developed characters. Kudos to Toymax for a great job of showcasing your work. Fingers crossed that I’ll be in L.A. in June to actually see it in person. [Huge kudos to Max! And fingers crossed, indeed, Thomas! :D]
Send me your comments, and I’ll put them in the next blog post!
B.J.’s Online Book Club Recap
Last month, our Book Club delved into the Christmas book “Mistletoe Bound” and had a great discussion! There were a few questions asked before book club, and it was fun to dissect who knew what about which character in which timeline!
You voted “Perchance to Dream – Book One” to be the next Book Club book!
The next Online Book Club is Saturday, April 5, 2025 at 4:00 p.m., Eastern.
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BDSM Checklists
Check out my FREE BDSM Checklists.
I 
created two BDSM Checklists to assist with communication and negotiation. One is grouped by fetishes and the other is an alphabetical listing, and both have spaces for you to fill in additional ones.
Make sure you check out the Checklists! Then, let me know what you think and how you used them.
Question: It’s Wednesday and you have a lot of ‘hump day’ posts of pegging and I’m not slamming it at all but it led me as a cis male to wonder – Is pegging really that fun for the ladies, even if they can’t feel the sensations in their artificial penises? What’s the main appeal of it, at least for you?
B.J.’s Answer: Thanks for the question. It’s true, most of my hump day posts involve pegging. While a dildo attached to a harness doesn’t provide the actual sensation of penis-to-vagina sex, there are some dildos that are double-sided. Meaning, when the woman thrusts forward, there’s an added rubbing against her clit and/or opening. Perhaps it’s not the same as feeling a sub’s butt muscles clamping against an actual rod, but she gets a sensation of her own.
As to the “what’s in it for you” question… power, baby! To plunge into the depths of a male, to thrust, pound, grab his hips, well, that’s the pinnacle of empowerment. It’s heady, animalistic and arousing… and I have to imagine the same as a burst of testosterone.
Thomas’ Answer: In a D/s context, pegging should be stimulating for BOTH parties as a power exchange. As for the woman’s physical pleasure, current technology has incorporated vibrators on strap-on that stimulate the clitoris. There’s also the Feeldoe, which penetrates the vagina of the user and works with or without a harness.
One additional note, not part of your question but often discussed when the subject of pegging comes up, is the difficulty some men have in bringing up the subject with their partner. Right or wrong, there is a bit of stigma around the topic and it can be a difficult conversation to have. But that’s a topic for another time, or you can consult with B.J., since she is a Relationship Coach.
Question: Would you please discuss the concept of “consensual non-consent?” What is it? How do you see this fitting in with ethical D/s? The reason I ask is that I’m seeing this term pop up more and more in various forum posts and in bios of kinky folks on social media. Thanks.
B.J.’s Answer: Thanks for the question. Consensual non-consent or CNC is a type of roleplay. The players negotiate or agree to a non-consensual type of play; however, it is ensconced within consent. For example, many people enjoy rape roleplay. It’s important to note, though, that people don’t want to *actually* be raped. They want the simulation.
A common one is to walk into your home and “get jumped” by a “stranger”. The stranger is, of course, the partner who understands the non-consent aspect of the fantasy. The partner then ties the “victim” and carries on with the rape fantasy.
I like the added question about ethical D/s, because, unfortunately, vanillas regard D/s as barbaric and anything but ethical. It’s quite the opposite. Before partners engage in kinky play, they communicate their desires–which include what they *don’t* want to happen. And partners understand the difference between boundaries and limits.
If anyone walks into the middle of a CNC scene, it may look barbaric and unethical when, in fact, it’s roleplay and completely within the scope of each person’s comfort zone. <–another reason scenes in progress shouldn’t be interrupted. My suggestion is if you plan on doing a CNC scene in a public dungeon that you notify the Dungeon Master ahead of time so that your scene does not get interrupted.
Thomas’ Answer: I agree with B.J. on this one. CNC isn’t for everyone, and it absolutely requires negotiation beforehand. If you do this type of fantasy role-play in a public play setting you definitely should let the Dungeon Master/Mistress know beforehand.
As B.J. points out, vanillas (or “missionaries”) have a lot of preconceived ideas about what D/s and BDSM are generally. To them, kink always appears to be forced and unethical. That’s an unfortunate truth, but sometimes it can be turned into an opportunity to educate.
As for the ethics, this is, again, about communication of desires, limits and trust. The submissive needs to trust the dominant will adhere to the agreed limits of the scene, and the dominant needs to trust that the submissive has been honest and clear with the desires and limits. That is something that should *always* be a part of a D/s scene.
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Happy reading,
~B.J.
