In the last blog post I shared pictures of Koki dressed as a Minion. You requested the lambchop costume, so here are the pics.
He liked this one much better because it was all velcro; no annoying holes. He was so confused why I
kept grabbing his paws to thread ’em through the Minion one. 😀
This one’s hood, like the other, didn’t really fit, but he didn’t want to treat it like a toy, either. Bonus.
But how cute is he?! I had to show you the hood so you can see the full effect.
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The Dominion and the Sugilite – Episode 41
The Season Five opener is a DOUBLE EPISODE at the SAME PRICE as other episodes in my Fantasy/Sci-Fi Erotic Soap Opera with Femdom themes!
Episode 41 is unlike any other installment in the “D/s” series, being a flashback that explains several things that were alluded to in previous episodes.
As soap operas go, there are also mysteries yet to come.
If you haven’t started the series yet, this episode is a great reason to binge the previous forty. It’s that good.
The extra-long Season Five opener packs the heat and discloses secrets… with Episode 42 of “D/s” coming soon.
Get your copy today!
If you haven’t started the series yet, you can jump in by getting The First Season at a discount, and don’t forget to get the Supplement, which contains all the behind-the-scenes tidbits as well as charts and episode synopses.
Reviews are important, especially in the erotica genre. So go to Goodreads and write reviews for all of my books that you’ve read. Also, “like” the other positive reviews. Not only could you influence a potential reader but you’ll make me happy. Remember, our new goal is 1,000 reviews!
“The Christmas Calendar”
This year’s Christmas novel is also a big’un but I’ve kept the price the same. You can preorder today and get a Christmas cuddle in your inbox on Black Friday, November 27, 2026. Here’s the synopsis:
The made-for-TV Christmas movie that you’ll never see on TV!
Keith Abbott is a wonderful baker but a horrible businessman. He’s also a wonderful person but unlucky in love. This year he faces the close of another bakery, and the return of his ring from his fiancée.
Just when his luck is at its lowest, Keith receives a peculiar letter from an attorney. He is summoned to the town of Cropton Desires for the reading of his long-lost Aunt Sybil’s will. Things look bright! Keith plans on selling his aunt’s house so he can open another bakery and win back his girl.
Sybil placed a caveat in her will, however, that Keith must stay for the holiday season and complete all of the activities on her Christmas Calendar.
Memories of summers with Aunt Sybil return: baking; his best friend Logan; competitions; his boyhood crush Corinne. Keith can’t remember why he stopped going to Cropton Desires… and why he never saw his aunt again.
Cropton Desires is a kink-friendly town, celebrating kink on all levels, including power exchange, femdom, LGBTQ, polyamory, and Bi-Obedience. The tropes that are the hallmark of Christmas movies are also beloved in Cropton Desires (like cute kids [unrelated to kink], town-wide competitions, Christmas cookies, snow, and sparks) along with a heavy dose of kink (BDSM, femdom, caning, dungeons, some male-on-male scenes, some girl-on-girl scenes, some group scenes), and, of course, a happily ever after.
Learn along with Keith how a tree lighting ceremony, a snowball fight, building snowmen, a candy cane competition, and other events bend to the kinky side. Hint: tree lighting with e-Stim, snowballs to the balls, finding the hole, and candy caning only touch the surface of steamy fun.
Merry Kinkmas!
I Will Teach a Writing Class at Serenity Studios
Ever since I met Madam Serpent and Solar, they have been after me to visit their dungeon and teach a class. It’s finally happening! I will be there Saturday, December 5 from 5-7:30p to teach a class on writing and publishing, and also do a meet-n-greet to sell and sign books.
Check it out on their FetLife blog: https://fetlife.com/events/2026/12/05/free-class-erotic-writing-and-book-publishing-by-award-winning-author-bj-frazier-rzu6v5
I had the pleasure of meeting the owners of Serenity Studios at DomCon LA several years ago. Not only are they terrific people, but they built a community around their dungeon with a focus on acceptance and teaching. If you want to know more about them, read my interview from a previous blog post.
I spoke with Madam Serpent last month to coordinate times and content. She believes so much in education that she does not charge members to attend classes. Amazing!
I’m so geeked to see Madam Serpent and Solar in their space and meet their members. The class already shows 19 people attending with nearly 100 others who are interested. The classroom only holds 25. We’ll see what happens as the time gets closer.
Shoutout to my beloved toymax, who is working diligently to update the slides for my class. He also gifted me a clicker so I can smoothly transition between slides. Max, I would not be able to teach as effectively without you. Vielen dank!
Bots for Authors are Relentless… and Stupid
Bots for Authors are Relentless… and StupidI’m so sick of getting scam emails from bots trying to make me part with my money by puffing up my ego… especially since they’re no good at it. At least gimme foreplay. Make me believe I’m the best ever. Send me over the edge with a gripping path toward fame and fortune!
Usually they do, but the one I received recently failed so horrifically that I didn’t even get wet! Let’s look at the reasons:
1. The subject line makes it seem like the crowd will go wild for my book, “The Legacy”. However, I don’t have any book with this 
title. Interestingly, I *wrote a review* for a book called “The Legacy of the Jaded Hart” by D.B. Carter, but that was many years ago.
2. Please note the email indicates it’s coming from Michael Collins Arishe from a generic Gmail account.
3. In the middle of the email, though, it indicates it’s from Bradely Olivere from BookDrop Media Team. Putting aside that maybe it should be BradLEy and not Bradely, the two names don’t match. Further, if it *was* from a legitimate company, then the email address would indicate that, not a generic one.
4. Bullets – the tell-tale signs of AI. UGH. Please, please, please do NOT use AI. Anything you ask of it merely educates the beast, which is run completely on algorithms. Something you don’t know? Type it into a search engine, and then type “-AI” so you do NOT see AI content. Educating yourself from AI databases is no education at all because it’s not reliable! We are human, and we have the ability to think for ourselves.
If you’re an author and have received similar emails, move forward with caution, if you must; though I advise reporting them as spam.
If you’re a submissive who has been DM’d by someone purporting to be a dominant who wishes to train you, also, move forward with caution. Or better yet, do not move forward at all–unless it’s to trap it into an amusing conversation that I can share in the next blog post.
We’re approaching the holiday season, where loneliness is exceptionally high. I’ll warn you again, but for now, remember that dominants do not seek out submissives. Don’t go off-site with a bot, don’t send money, and do not give any personal information. Stay safe, and think with the head on top of your shoulders.
B.J.’s Online Book Club
The next Book Club will be Thursday, January 14, 2027 at 4p Eastern. Vote for the next book in the latest poll: https://www.bjfrazier.com/kinky-links/quizzes/
DM me to be included:
Imaglr ~ Not Safe for Work
Tumblr ~ Questionably Safe for Work
FetLife ~ Safe for Work
Right Here ~ Safe for Work
BlueSky ~ Not Safe for Work
Here’s what you said after the last blog post.
Thomas Antonson ~ Lampchop, please! I can’t wait until readers get their hands on this year’s xmas novel and episode 41 of the soap opera. Ep 41 actually got me worked up in several places! [Thomas, you say the sweetest things!]
rubbug ~ Purple lambchop Koki please! He’s cute as a minion, and I’m sure equally as cute as lambchop. [Here ya go… can’t wait for your feedback]
Episode 40 was really good, and a nice way to end this season. The next one seems like it’ll be even more exciting following the events from this one. Can’t wait! [It’s out today! Enjoy!]
Also can’t wait for the Christmas one too. As a non Christmas fan I’m always surprised to find myself liking your Christmas books. Granted, your books are quite different from how Christmas is sold so I’m sure that’s why. [*chuckling* why, rb, I have NO idea what you mean]
Gallant seems like a cool guy, at least he can admit what many politicians have been found to hide and turn around and punish others for. Need more like Gallant. [Unfortunately, New York’s 1st Congressional District gave the majority of its support to Gallant’s opponent]
toymax ~ I would love to see more photos of the very photogenic Koki and I think Ledge is very glad that Koki enjoys dressing up, so he doesn’t have to do it. 🙂 [haha, you may be right. Enjoy the Lambchop Koki!]
Of course I preordered my “The Christmas Calendar” copy. Yesterday I read the preview and I am very excited to get the full version because a movie immediately started playing in my head. [Yay! I’m so excited for people to read it! Also, it warms my heart that you saw a movie, Max, because I write with one in my head :D]
Send me your thoughts on this blog post, and I’ll include it in the next Community Kink Chat!
BDSM Checklists
Check out my FREE BDSM Checklists.
I 
created two BDSM Checklists to assist with communication and negotiation. One is grouped by fetishes and the other is an alphabetical listing, and both have spaces for you to fill in additional ones.
Make sure you check out the Checklists! Then, tell me what you think and how you used them.
Question: What’s the most important thing you’ve learned since you began your kinky journey?
B.J.’s Answer: Thanks for the extremely difficult question! If I must choose only one, I’d say communication is key *because* it encompasses so much. When you talk openly, your needs and your partner’s needs can be met. Also, the more you talk, the more you learn–not just about your partner but about kink in general. You understand there are many other kinks and the importance of not yucking someone else’s yum. Of course communicating and learning about kink envelopes the protocol, ethics, safety, hygiene, rules, etc. about what TO do and, sometimes more importantly, what NOT to do.
Thomas’ Answer: Thomas did not submit his response timely. I will update when I get it.
Do you have a kinky question you’d like answered? Use the contact form to submit your question. All questions will be kept anonymous unless you’d prefer to be named.
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Happy reading,
~B.J.
