Celebrating Fifty!
It is an absolute honor to share my fiftieth book with Jessie Spectre. Not only is “Eli” a scorchingly *hot* series but the collaboration has been a marvelous blending of work, and I’ve learned a ton. Thank you, Jessie, for all of your support, humor, knowledge… and for trusting me to work on this project.
I’m ecstatically proud to reach this milestone with the Eli series. Celebrate with me!
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Eli continues his journey of discovery and awakening. He enjoys more crossdressing and is further feminized, but he knows who he is at heart.
Some of Eli’s adventures put him at odds with those he holds closest while the cruel whispers of old enemies still affect him. His trust is misplaced more than once and help comes from unexpected places.
The college has something to say about his behavior, and Eli seeks help from new friends and a kindred spirit. Perhaps an enthusiastic femdom can change his perspective?
Some of Eli’s relationships are stretched to the breaking point, and even his positive interactions could prove to be dangerous.
Surrounded by deceit, even Eli’s moral compass gets scrambled… by a certain pair of blue eyes.
Meanwhile, Bernie realizes his mixed signals could push Eli away. He must act quickly or face losing the boy forever.
This quick-paced installment is filled with lies, twists and heat, and it will leave you desperately yearning for the next and final book in the series.
From the delectably kinky minds of B.J. Frazier and Jessie Spectre, “Eli – Book Four ~ The Deception” is a must read!
The second Book Club was held Friday, June 9, and it was so much fun! We discussed “14-Day Lockdown with Goddess Serena”.
I reread it last week, and it made me smile to read and remember some of the terms and thoughts during the real lockdown, as I had written it during a lockdown.
It was great to see repeat participants as well as new ones. This time, I enjoyed asking the readers some questions to get their insight. I look forward to a similar back-and-forth in future Book Clubs.
There were some great questions that I wish to highlight for the people who missed the discussion:
Q I wanted to ask what inspired you to write this, besides the initial lockdowns
A Actually, I was told by several readers that they would be able to handle lockdown if they were locked with me. And they asked me to write a book where a sub was locked with a domme. At first I thought, “Fuck no, I’m busy writing something else.” But as more requests came in, the story started to percolate… and that’s how Serena was born.
Q How did You come of NOLA as the place?
A NOLA was the first city in the U.S. to go into lockdown; that’s why I included specific dates in the book.
Q I liked Serena’s method of having her subs journal their day. It gave us insights into what they were thinking. How did you come to this idea?
A To be honest, it was only supposed to be a quick short story. There were too many humiliating fun and games that Serena wanted to play, and she needed to keep them occupied while she took care of herself and/or planned for other activities. So it was a matter of convenience to have them journal.
Q Were the games always the plan for how this would play out?
A Yes, I’m a HUGE lover of game, and Serena put a humiliation twist on them.
Q So in the intro, Goddess Serena is “taught” femdom by men. Is that something that you’d known to be a common occurrence or was it something that you thought fit her story better?
A I actually didn’t have any notions about gender; it was strictly to provide her backstory, as she told it to me. 🙂 She wanted to be an actress. It had to be that she enjoyed domination… and I like how she turned it around to her advantage.
Q I want to ask about the use of slurs. I know not everyone is into them. How do you know where to ride the line in pleasing the multiple kinks of your readers?
A The simple answer is: I don’t. The longer, better answer is: I don’t care to, either. The second I start writing solely for readers’ wishes is the second my books suck. I like to think readers enjoy my books because they can tell that I enjoy writing them. If it doesn’t resonate with me, you’ll be able to tell… and I don’t want that. And I don’t ever want to be in a position where I have to write.
One of the best things about Book Club is the camaraderie. It touched me that everyone was accommodating of people’s schedules across the globe when choosing the next date and time. As toymax wrote to me after, he was touched as well. You guys are awesome.
Also, it’s important to remember that people need safe places to talk about kink. We don’t do that enough because society places a stigma on it. The more we chat, the more we realize that others think the same way and/or that we can share a different perspective and be accepted.
The next book is up to you. Be sure to vote in the poll. Choices were made by Book Club participants.
The group chose the next Book Club to be Sunday, July 30, 2023 at 4p EST. DM me to join.
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Have I told you how much I *love* getting your responses?? I LOVE it! Here’s what you had to say…
cb-6000-lover ~ Your review is chock full of details, and you reference another installment — yay! When and where will your next conference be? From reading your reviews, I really want to participate. For once I’d be pretty sure other males around me were caged! [ha! That is very true, and I’d love to meet you… possibly NOLA. I’ll let you know]
It’s marvelous that you met so many supportive people. And Claire really is a bestie! Are her views on kink expanding? Will she dip a toe into the kinky pool? [Her views expand because I read aloud to her as I write my books. It’s funny, Claire skips most of the hardcore parts to get to the plot :)]
rubbug ~ Just read your latest blog post. It was hilarious to see you engaging with the bot, and I thought of how similar it was to the bot in “Blackmailing a Superhero”. Also, it’s cool you were able to show the progression of what they wanted, that way people can be more mindful when it heads in that direction. [Thanks! I’ve started to caption a warning in bold, large letters in smedia that this blog belongs to a bot in the hope of spreading the word. I also had fun with the bot as a way to entertain you guys and drive the point home.]
The history of kink was very interesting, the Trans emperor stood out because I was very much into history when I was younger and never heard of them. I can only assume it didn’t align with the “values” of the US and they just refused to include it into the curriculum. [History is very much written with the subjective slant of the writer. Glad you learned something!]
sizeerrorprojection ~ I looked briefly at the history of bdsm timelines and was quite surprised it started with Mesopotamia and not Egypt. Maybe that’s due to the Coptics burning the entire library in Alexandria. Lovely read. I really enjoyed it. Was that your pic at the start of the vendors in Goddess Phoenix’s video for DomCon? I was wondering about the surprise. [Cool! Yes, the surprise was that Goddess Phoenix used my logo in her DomCon video; good catch!]
Multiperv ~ A mention of your first DomCon LA review post about the healing power of BDSM and one of your readers saying something plus having heard from dommes or sex workers that some of their time often ends up being therapy or talking led me to wonder if this is more of a thing with pros or if it happens as much in the lifestyle world. [A good question. My speculative and hopeful answer is yes; that a lifestyle relationship would include good communication that’s healing not only for the submissive but for the dominant as well.]
toymax ~ Thank You for being a tireless advocate against bots on bdsmlr. I especially appreciate Your postings where You warned Your followers about specific blogs that You’ve reported but the admins haven’t banned yet. It’s so easy to get trapped by these blogs – most of them sound stupid right from the beginning, but sometimes they sound so real, so tempting. Your reminders are very welcome, Miss B.J. [You’re welcome. It’s important that we collectively report them to keep our community safe.]
I looked at Agnes’ “Kinky Timeline” page, and my first thought was: Oh my Goddess, I had never thought Kink has started THAT early. The figging part caught my interest. I love that kink, and I had to smile as I read they put ginger in a horse’s anus to make it seem young and lively. Maybe that’s why I love it. *grin* [haha–hopefully you don’t enjoy ginger in the same place!]
Sweet Gwendoline – Wow, that was one of my favorite songs in the ‘80s from the German band “Die Aerzte”. I even had a shirt with Sweet Gwendoline on it. I’ve always dreamed of finding Her and Her little hut because the lyrics are about “She tied and gagged me”. [What a great connection; thanks for sharing!]
I can only add a big big Thank You for making this huge effort and telling us so much about Your DomCon experiences. [You are so welcome; your enjoyment is my happiness]
I want to hear from you. Tell me what you think of this DomCon review… and don’t forget to congratulate me on 50!
DomCon L.A. 2023 ~ The Third Review!
If you’re just starting, here’s where to catch up:
A Cool Invention
On one of my jaunts around the vending area, I met the Duchess Lex White. In the center of her booth was the Saddle Ottoman.
I knew it had multiple purposes the second I saw it, and asked Lex about it. She excitedly gave me a tour. At first glance, it’s just a regular, leather ottoman. But this is no ordinary ottoman. Being a professional domme, Lex was able to design this fuctional piece of furniture.
It has hidden compartments that are lockable, and drawers to store all kinds of kinkery. Plus, the central section opens up and transforms into a spanking bench!
Duchess Lex is currently working on an accent chair and home décor. Read more on her website.
Interviews:
Master Jim
(with a huge shoutout to Miss Wet!)
It’s easy to judge. Your experiences in life enable you to predict some things. It’s natural to look at something and think, draw conclusions, and perhaps even judge. Sometimes those predictions are right, but how often are they wrong?
I think that’s why I decided to do these reviews; to dispel the preconceived ideas.
Take Master Jim, for example…
My booth was next to the vendors’ entrance. There were volunteers at the doors checking for tickets. And one of them was Master Jim.
You can just tell about people sometimes. Like, before I read his nametag, I knew that he was dominant.
That didn’t stop me from talking to him!
Master Jim has a kind face, lovely blue eyes, and a playful, teasing aura about him. He and I bantered well.
He inquired about my books, and I said they were from the other side of dominance. Master Jim confessed to being open. So of course I had to tease him about being bi or bi-curious. He looked me in the eyes for a moment, and then shared a story with me.
Master Jim told me that he had a sub once who was married. And one time the husband accompanied her. Master Jim sat amongst several women, whom he could command to do whatever he wanted–whatever the husband wanted. Aware that the husband was essentially gifting his wife, Master Jim magnanimously offered to grant him a wish.
He gestured to the women around him. And the husband looked at them, then back at Master Jim.
Jim got quiet in his telling of the story and leaned in to whisper, “He said he wanted to serve me.”
Jim and I shared a reverent nod, and he raised his eyebrows and shrugged.
He’d been in the lifestyle for decades at that point and was comfortable with who he was, and who he was not. But Master Jim recognized how vulnerable the husband’s ask was, and he appreciated the trust that the husband had inherently extended. So, Master Jim dommed in earnest, and the husband seemed happy, but the experience solidified Jim’s heterosexuality.
A true dom understands his subs and ensures that they feel good about themselves… sometimes to his own discomfort. I admire Jim for his ability to experiment.
At DomCon, I spoke with Master Jim at length over multiple conversations. At first it was just a conversation. But the more we spoke, the more I realized he needed to be included in the interview section. I asked, and he consented.
Jim has always known he was dominant and polyamorous. In fact, he’s never had a relationship that wasn’t.
As for relationships ending, he said subs usually grow up and move on organically. But most of his subs have been with him for twenty years or more.
Some subs have been bratty at times, and–he said with a smirk–once they’re done, he makes sure they know who’s in charge because he doesn’t suffer brats well. He’s also had issues with jealousy between subs. Mainly, though, it’s been with subs who were related (to each other). Jim rolled his baby blues and shook his head as he told me that he’d learned his lesson about taking on relatives.
Our understanding of one another and bantering aside, Master Jim is a formidable presence. He’s rugged and is used to getting things his way. A quick glance might evoke some of those preconceived ideas. Let me show you.
With permission, I took this picture of Master Jim’s hands. If someone were to only looked at them, one would make judgments and possibly wouldn’t interact with him. But Jim speaks softly with an assured confidence. He’s an experienced dominant who effortlessly gains the trust of his submissives. After speaking with him, I understand why. I trust him, too.
One of Master Jim’s longstanding subs is Miss Wet. A huge shoutout and thank you to Miss Wet for her tireless efforts throughout the convention. She was always busy ensuring the smooth running of damn near everything… but she was never too busy to stop and smile.
I remember the smiling Miss Wet from NOLA, where, every morning, she wished the vendors well. Your efforts are appreciated!
My affection for Master Jim was reaffirmed knowing that Miss Wet has a longstanding relationship with him. They make me smile.
To Miss Wet ~ Nice to see you again, and thank you for the power cord and fan!
To Master Jim ~ It was a pleasure to meet you, and I look forward to chatting with you more in the future!
Servicepet
Thanks to Multiperv for the suggestion that I interview a submissive male at the con. A great idea, and my booth boy, servicepet, was the natural choice.
Servicepet first knew he was kinky when his older brother came home from college in the ‘70s with the “Story of O” that servicepet surreptitiously read cover to cover. He calls the book “soul-revealing” and identified far more with O than with the sadistic chaos.
As he got older and went to college, BDSM never went away but it also wasn’t something he acted upon. He calls it “something dark, and not something you could talk about with other people.”
He remembers the Rocky Mountain Oyster magazine and their personal ads in the back with a taboo kind of interest. Servicepet said they were a validation of “the dark thing to keep secret”, and it was good to know there were others like him out there.
But as “the way things are supposed to be”, servicepet met his wife at his job, and resigned his kink to masturbatory fantasies.
When he separated, he discovered the internet and was once again validated. He discovered FetLife in 2008 and joined the D.C. sub club group, who had happy hours and dinners with dommes.
In 2011, he founded “Athletic and Kinky in D.C.” which was later renamed to “Active and Kinky in D.C.” to avoid excluding certain body types. Within days, the group had 300 members. Originally, he created it to find workout buddies with similar interests.
In 2015, he founded “Antisocial”, which was a play on words to “D.C. Social”, which fell under poor management. Servicepet’s group is far from its namesake.
In 2012, servicepet attended his first Winter Fire Odyssey. It was an event that included every sort of thing imaginable beyond what he thought was validating. And he learned how serious people were and how much they affirmed safety.
Attending that conference gave him a sense of community that was on a higher level. He learned that we may not all have the same kink but we’re all kinky. And he continued to attend.
In fact, it’s not the kink or the sex but the community and socializing that keeps him going to conventions. [And I’m glad he did, because that’s how I met servicepet in NOLA]
He recognizes the courage it takes to attend kink conventions because people have private lives. There’s a risk associated to jobs and personal relationships, making it difficult to attend.
Servicepet’s advice to someone attending for the first time is to go as an observer. Don’t expect to find a dream partner; just take everything in and be respectful. Then, get plugged in socially to form real, human relationships of people you can play with.
In his personal life, servicepet is “anchor partners” with someone in a poly relationship. It’s been rewarding and it allows him the chance for exploration… and he’s not caught up in labels.
He enjoyed being my booth boy but he’s not sure whether he did enough. You did, servicepet, and I’m grateful to have had you there!
Servicepet added with a wicked grin that his most challenging task was dealing with Claire. …which is the tease for the next review post story about “the blue latex vest”… hence the blue latex glove pic *grin*
To servicepet ~ It was great to see you again and an honor to call you my booth boy. I look forward to future cons and, once you finish moving, I look forward to your attendance at the next Online Book Club!
Mistress Cyan
At DomCon NOLA 2022, I attended one of Mistress Cyan’s classes, and I also had the pleasure of sitting down and chatting with her. For the extended interview, check out this blog post.
Mistress Cyan is the founder of DomCon, and, in 2004, she organized the first convention to join professionals with lifestylers… in the face of naysayers who said the two groups would never meet. In May of 2023, DomCon L.A. celebrated its 20th anniversary.
As much recognition and experience that she has, she is “present” at these conventions. She makes a point to circulate the vending area and warmly welcome newcomers and chat with established vendors.
On the setup day, she was outside the vending area. I greeted her with a polite reminder of who I was, but she remembered me. I asked her for another interview and teased her with an idea I thought she’d like. She readily accepted.
In the first DomCon L.A. review, I talked about the opening ceremony and how each new speaker recognized Mistress Cyan and called her back on stage. Most everyone talked about how Mistress Cyan had scripted their portions and commented that they snuck in their award.
When I sat down to chat with her, I asked whether she knew about the awards beforehand. She smiled and shook her head, embarrassed. She laughed and said, “I wrote the scripts to make sure that everything was done properly, so I was very surprised by the awards.”
I joked that she needed to have a permanent throne on stage so she didn’t have to keep getting called up and down the stairs. After an initial chuckle and statement that she didn’t mind the walking, she got serious and said, “It almost felt awkward because it’s not about me.”
She said her intentions twenty years ago was to bring together a divided community, and she merely views herself as a catalyst. In fact, she added that singling her out is a discredit to her board. She emphatically asserted that one person cannot do it alone.
Mistress Cyan explained it’s for that reason that she gives out awards at the opening ceremonies. So many people are responsible for the success of the conventions. And because DomCon recognizes its contributors, she said, is the reason people come back.
She said many of her volunteers have done it for years–and have never asked for a thing in return. She looked around the vending room and said, vendors return because they’re treated well. Remember (from the first interview in NOLA), Mistress Cyan is a savvy businesswoman, and she points out that she’d be exhausted if she had to continuously search for vendors each year.
I wrote about the opening ceremony in NOLA, and how it gave a wonderful sense of community. Rarely do business and community come together so well.
I congratulated her on twenty years of success and asked what it means to her to look back on the first convention in 2004. She said it’s been an “experience she wouldn’t trade for anything.” It’s been very rewarding.
Thousands of people have told her that DomCon has changed their lives, exposed partners and changed minds. While she initially said she couldn’t put it into words, she then said, “Having an impact and making a difference in people’s lives is profound for me.”
Mistress Cyan said DomCon is an opportunity to learn, including herself; because she teaches and learns from people. And what’s the number one thing she’s learned? “You receive through giving.”
Read that again. It’s worth it.
Mistress Cyan is a pillar in the kink community, highly revered and hugely respected. I asked her how she stays grounded. Without missing a beat, she said, “There’s a difference between confidence and cockiness.”
Then she explained that if you have to boost yourself, it shows a lack of confidence. She added that there’s no reason for her to make a scene because it is not about her. Further, “when others are singing your praise, you don’t need to.”
I asked Mistress Cyan what she’d tell newbs who weren’t sure about attending their first DomCon. She said there are so many aspects to the convention. But first, you need to “release your inhibitions and take the step forward.” You’ll meet people who are just like you; who are either attending their first con or remember when they did.
She also said that most people have expectations, and are shocked to find welcoming, down-to-earth people. She adds that attending a convention “dispels the myth of everyone being angry or mean without consent.”
At the end of the interview, Mistress Cyan asked me about AI technology, and we veered down another path of conversation. She talked about her four granddaughters’ use of technology. With a smile, I asked her what they call her, and she said Grandma or Grandma Cyan. She proudly told me that her eldest granddaughter’s middle name is Cyan.
I asked if I could include that in my review, and she said, “Of course!”
People bustled in and out of our space, apologizing for interrupting but needing her expertise. And I smiled to know that this living icon in the kink community, for whom I have awesome respect, is known only as Grandma Cyan to four precious ladies.
You may be thinking, how can this be the end of the interview when, at the outset, I teased about an idea that Mistress Cyan would like? The answer is a *wicked grin* because the idea, my friends, is a huge secret… one that will be revealed at the end of the summer, hopefully.
I’ll add this: Mistress Cyan does, in fact, like it and wholeheartedly approves! 😉
To Mistress Cyan ~ Congratulations on twenty years, and here’s to the next twenty! Thank you for your foresight, for your insight, and for your humanity. [I’ll email you about the “other” *grin*]
“Trauma, Kink & Somatic Healing”
Picture a tiny, white room with a long table in front and two sections of chairs facing the table. Now picture those seats filled with people, and more on the floor in front of the table, and still others standing along the walls.
That’s how I entered this class… and zeroed in on one empty chair, which happened to be next to Ryan! I talked about my friend Ryan in the previous DomCon review. We hadn’t talked to each other about the class beforehand, so the empty seat was karma.
There was plenty of karma in that clustered room… but I get ahead of myself.
Sitting atop the long table with her legs crossed under her was Priestess Francesca.
She was dressed in a flowy top and comfy pants, and she was barefoot. Her brunette hair shaped her face… which was smiling as she took in people’s energy while they settled into place.
I had the pleasure of meeting her the day before but, even if I hadn’t, I’d say the same thing: She has an aura of authentic intelligence. That’s a weighty accolade but, if you stay with me, I’ll get you there, too.
After the shuffling stopped and the attention shifted to her, Priestess Francesca closed her eyes and took an audible breath and let it out with an “Mmmmm.” With her hands, she wafted the energy from the room into her space and breathed and moaned again.
And the room was silent.
She opened her eyes and thanked us for being there. Her voice was warm and accessible, like she was the girl next door; not from a higher plane. With a smile, she showcased an assortment of snacks next to her on the table. She had brought the snacks to help us get regulated.
Priestess Francesca invited us to come up and partake whenever we wanted. Some people did throughout the class, and they were thanked for taking care of themselves. Even Francesca ate some chocolate at one point when things got deep.
It’s important to me that you *experience* this class, so I want you to do something that Priestess Francesca had us do at the very beginning. Seriously. Put your phone down… but face-up, so you can follow the next set of direction.
Now take your left hand and put it under your right armpit. Then take your right arm and wrap it on the outside of your left arm. Now squeeze. You’ll agree that that’s a much better hug than wrapping both of your arms on the outside.
Priestess Francesca explained the benefits of a self-hug and also spoke about self-tapping as forms of EFT or Emotional Freedom Technique as a way to ground oneself. She encouraged us to do them–and get snacks–during the class, and she warned about trauma scenarios that would be discussed.
Once her audience had been hugged, warned and told it was free to move about the cabin to get snacks, Priestess Francesca introduced herself.
She didn’t preach about the protocols of education; she demonstrated them.
Priestess Francesca is a pro-switch, an ordained priestess, a sexologist, and she intersects modalities in The School of Erotic Mysteries, which she founded.
She talked about how there are four kinds of trauma that can be stored in the body. One is lived trauma, where you have lived through something. That can be acute, like a car accident, or chronic, like a deep, childhood experience. There’s also complex trauma, which is a combination of the two. An example was both parents are normal but one may have a secret vice, like alcohol or drugs.
Other traumas include collective trauma, such as war, violence or COVID. Societal or cultural trauma deals with discrimination about race, sex, gender, etc. And intergenerational trauma, which is hereditary.
Priestess Francesca shared that she has been a kinkster since the age of nineteen. We’re taught that kink is bad, people who engage in it must be sick… but she’s never understood that premise. Her view is that if we normalize sex and accept it, we can use it to eroticize traumas.
In a “Sexie Show” podcast I listened to, Priestess Francesca talked about a white-light, out-of-body experience when she was twenty and engaged in sex. That is her turning point when she began to seek guidance and instruction from others because she knew something was going on.
In the DomCon class, she animatedly talked about how good sex feels, especially an orgasm, and how freeing it can be. She links sex as a fire element because “fire burns shit”, and it’s a good way to get rid of trauma.
To illustrate the point, Priestess Francesca talks about sex scenes being used for people to either recreate their trauma or totally obliterate it. For example, if someone was bullied on the playground as a child, a recreating scene would involve humiliation or degradation. Whereas an obliteration scene would be filled with tons of praise, like, “good girl”.
She discussed one of her clients who, at the age of six, got an erection at the doctor’s office. His mom humiliated him in front of the doctor. Priestess Francesca created a scene where she played a naughty nurse. She, as the nurse, acknowledged the erection but told him it’s not the proper place to get one.
She also talked about having two clients during COVID who sought drool play. It’s a kink she’d heard of in the past but it became more prevalent since COVID basically prevented people to drool, since we had to wear masks.
One of her favorite types of play is taboo, like dirty mommy play or ANR (adult nursing relationship). Priestess Francesca was quick to address the negatives and equally quick to say that people overlook the heart of those taboos. People seeking these types of taboo are really yearning for reassurance, grounding and security, which comes from the foundational level of Maslowe’s Hierarchy of Needs.
Clearly, Priestess Francesca cannot lactate on demand. But it’s the sensation someone gets from suckling a breast, secure in someone’s arms, who is caressing his face and body, and whispering assurances that everything is going to be all right that does wonders for healing.
And Priestess Francesca is a healer.
She shared that if you were to picture the stereotypical Italian mob Brooklyn domestic violence imagery, that that would be representational of her childhood. Priestess Francesca confessed to having fantasies of making dinner when her husband barges in and beats her up, food gets thrown, and then she’s bent over the table and fucked.
As a way of taking control of her past traumas, she changes that fantasy to include an orgasm at the end.
She links it to generational trauma because she sometimes envisions her late relatives as she climaxes. Quick to joke that dead people aren’t supposed to be encompassed in a mild-blowing orgasm, Priestess Francesca concludes that her changing the twisted fantasy is somehow freeing for past generations who weren’t able to find any escape.
She also acknowledges that it may sound far-fetched. She makes no claims of understanding the afterlife but proffers it as something that makes sense to her.
You, too, are free to disbelieve and/or to have your own thoughts and opinions.
Priestess Francesca is not about proselytizing; she’s about healing.
Several people asked her questions during the class. After each scenario/question, Priestess Francesca paused to breathe in and moan out, taking the time to *feel* the entirety of what was asked as well as what was not spoken.
Priestess Francesca’s answers were filled with empathy and a level of directness that demonstrated she not only understood but saw the inner being of the questioner. The answers resonated with the audience as well, and sparked additional questions. Several questioners self-helped with snacks after her answers.
There was a deferential mood in the room mixed with warmth and community. People collectively nodded after questions, affirming the questioners’ trauma in a kind of esoteric group-hug, if you will. The same occurred after Priestess Francesca answered, in support of her suggestions, experience and intelligence.
I have no doubt that we would’ve sat in that room for hours if we were allowed. On the walk back to the booth, Ryan and I talked about the class… and again at dinner that night… and a few times since the conference.
Hopefully, you now understand Priestess Francesca’s authentic intelligence. If not, I’ll try again, because she has agreed to a post-DomCon interview. If you can *feel* her, you’ll have more to experience in the final review post.
People who attended the Book Club received an early introduction to Priestess Francesca, and I hope she attends the one in July.
Until then, I encourage you to visit Priestess Francesca’s website.
Preview of Things to Come
Interviews:
Power Exchange Academy ~ Master Joshua and Miss Cat
Priestess Francesca
Plus:
Play Party
Hotel *Volunteers*
The Tale of the Blue, Latex Vest
Closing Remarks
I love connecting with you during these reviews. Several people I met at DomCon have sent emails. And of course those of you who live vicariously through my experiences, it’s always a pleasure to read your thoughts.
If you’ve made it this far, thanks. A final reminder to help me celebrate Fifty by starting or continuing the “Eli” series!
Do you have a kinky question you’d like answered? Use the contact form to submit your question. All questions will be kept anonymous unless you’d prefer to be named.
Thanks for the great questions and comments!
For other kinky advice, check my blog archives.
Happy reading,
~B.J.
