I know I say this all the time, but it’s hard to comprehend that we’re in June already.  Tons of things going on from graduation to family time to kink conventions… and casinos!  […which is why Book Club was moved to Friday, June 19 at 1p; read more below]

One of my happiest places is in a casino. Side note, “The Come Bet” is about a woman who looks for kinky prey at a craps table in Vegas.  I recently played slots at a casino in Windsor.  Why is this significant?  Because it *called to me*!  The name of it is Galactic Quest, and it was purple.

If you’re still confused on the significance, it tells me that you haven’t read my soap opera, “The Dominion and the Sugilite”, or “D/s” for short.  It is femdom, science fiction, fantasy, and a space opera on a female-ruled planet where men are subservient, and sex is required to live.  And I toss in Nymphs, Satyrs, Centaurs, and Futa.  But the significant point of the story is that I use the word “galactic” as a swear word.

So. Galactic and purple, and it has aliens.  No way I was NOT going to play that game!  Here’s a peek at it, because I definitely had to share *grin*

 

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The Cucksitter Training, Too is live!

This is the follow-up to “The Cucksitter Training”.  There may not be spoilers, but it’s best to read them in order.

Nora teaches her roommate Blanca about BDSM, including how to use implements and the psychology behind the scenes.  The training is done under the supervision of Professor Emery Hagan, a professional dominatrix and world-renowned psychiatrist.

Under the professor’s expert tutelage, Blanca transforms into Lady Látigo… who learns from her mistakes and mishaps with veteran and newbie submissives.

Will all of Blanca’s practice be enough to reach Nora’s level of status as a cucksitter?

Find out when you get your copy today!

A reminder that reviews are important, especially in the erotica genre.  So go to Goodreads and write reviews for all of my books that you’ve read.  Also, “like” the other positive reviews.  Not only could you influence a potential reader but you’ll make me happy.  Remember, our new goal is 1,000 reviews!

 

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New Bot Ruse – Feminization HRT Drugs

 

I strongly advocate against bots in smedia and post warnings about the scams fake accounts attempt.  If you’re a submissive desperately searching for a dominant, the one thing you should consider when being DM’d by someone you don’t know is:  Dommes don’t solicit subs.

Here is a new scam, reported by Oklahomardnk.  He received a message in Tumblfux offering feminization HRT drugs.  OkR decided to have some fun with the bot, and sent me the following conversation:

Bot ~ “Hello sissy / would you like to make your feminization journey more easier and faster with our monthly HRT plans and within 4-6 months you will have your own jiggling breast and perfect curve’s”

OkR ~ Wow!

Bot ~ “This are the functional effects to be expected when taking our hrt plans, / when you begin feminizing hormone therapy, you’ll notice the following changes in your body over time:” –and it goes on with the “medical effects” / “If there is anything you like to know about our feminization product kindly ask and how to place your order with us”

OkR ~ I’d never get anything done if I had my own set of tits to play with anytime I wanted….

Bot ~ “Our feminization will make make you happy and your dreams will come true”

The errors are representational, and another tell that you’re communicating with a bot. So be careful… and don’t purchase drugs from online strangers.

OkR had another cute exchange:

Bot ~ Hello sissy

OkR ~ Hello whore…. / What make you think I’m a sissy? / You know what assuming does, don’t you?

Bot ~ Yes / How are you doing

OkR ~ Doing fine

Bot ~ Good / Are you into the bdsm lifestyle

OkR ~ Burgers, drinks, and salsa music lifestyle? Yes! Every chance I get I partake

I include it to make you smile, but also to emphasize that the bot is not acknowledging what is actually being said by the “sub”. So even though you really want that special someone to drop into your DMs, you need to think with the head on top of your shoulders.

 

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Speaking of Cute Things

 

Rubbug sent me this 11-min clip that is worth watching for the giggle.  It kinda gets a bit repetitive toward the end, but the beginning is good.  Thanks, rb!

 

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Happy Birthday Task

Last month I asked for help celebrating CredereGoodBoy’s birthday by liking, reblogging and/or commenting on my post.  The results were that CGB had to spank himself and say aloud, “Thank you, Mistress B.J.”

 

CGB not only sent me a message but included visual evidence.  “The burn and sting felt amazing.  Thank you for the delicious task.  I used a wooden spatula and the final 10 were with a riding crop.  Different sensations entirely.  After each I counted the stroke and recited “Thank you, Mistress BJ” aloud.”

Glad you had a happy birthday, and thanks for sharing, CGB.

 

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Pupdate

 

In only two months, Koki will be a year old!  Even though he’s still so much puppy, he *looks* like a dog!  Here are some pix from the past six weeks. Looking cheeky with his beloved ducky… whose insides have since been thoroughly removed.  His red toy bin is empty, so if you’re wondering what’ll make me happy, have a look at my Throne and send puppy toys!

Who’s heard of a Furminator?  Ledger is half husky and 25% labrador, and he actually has two coats of fur.  The Furminator is a brush that removes the undercoat, and it’s a lifesaver for those furball explosions.  Here’s what Ledge looked like before and after his “treatment”.

If you look closely at the bottom of the bag of fur, you’ll see some reddish hairs.  Those are Koki’s, because he insisted on also being Furminated  😀

 

 

 

 

 

Whenever Ledger eats, Koki drops what he’s doing to plop down next to him, where he will patiently wait for Ledge to part with a piece of kibble.  It looks more like stalking, but Ledge tolerates it.

Koki is still very much a stretchy-kinda sleeper.  I love these pix because I think he’s trying to reach out to Ledge.  And Ledger accepts it all.

And here is Koki being his goofy self, biting his crate:

Newsletter Subscribers got bonus pix of Koki, so make sure you subscribe today (at the bottom of this page) so you don’t miss the next ones!

 

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B.J.’s Online Book Club

 

Book Club was moved to Friday, June 19, 2026 at 1p Eastern, where we will discuss “The Dominion and the Sugilite – The Second Season”.

DM me to be included:

bdsmlr ~ Not Safe for Work
Imaglr ~ Not Safe for Work
Tumblr ~ Questionably Safe for Work
FetLife ~ Safe for Work
Right Here ~ Safe for Work
BlueSky ~ Not Safe for Work

 

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Here’s what you said after the last blog post.

toymax ~ Koki did make me smile. I hope he’s good to his Snoopy. I’m a big Snoopy fan, too.  [Koki has sadly destroyed all of his toys, Max. I’ll be shopping for new ones soon–this is also why I keep toys on my Throne wish list!]

I’m glad You had such a good time at Kinkfest. Thanks for the interview with Vivian Vibes. It’s amazing how early some people recognize their calling and then pursue it with such enthusiasm, developing themselves in the process. Miss Vivian must truly be a very special person. I also appreciate that her mother didn’t judge her – on the contrary, she gave her some good advice. What wonderful support.  [It was a great convention, and I’m already looking forward to attending again next year!]

freedom-to-be-2 ~ I enjoyed the Kinkfest review! That might be more fun than Domcom. Plus I’ve wanted to explore Portland.  [I’m thinking KinkFest might be a better first con for newbs because of their internal support system and kink buddy finder board!]

You bring so much enthusiasm and energy to your blog… I don’t know where you find it all 🙂  [Aww, thanks, ftb2!  It’s awesome to hear because, without feedback, I don’t know who read these and/or appreciates them]

Send me your thoughts on this blog post, and I’ll include it in the next Community Kink Chat!

 

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DomCon LA 2026 Review!

 

As thrilling as it was to attend KinkFest, a new convention, earlier this year [see this blog post for more], it was nice to return to DomCon and “be known”.  There are warm and fuzzy feelings getting hugs from friends… quick shoutout to Mistress Mia, Selina Minx, Goddess Aroya, Audry Lu, Mistress Kathy, Miss Wet, Master Jim, Jabber, Master Gabriel, Master Gear, Danny, Trent, Jessie, April–and this is why I don’t do this, because I didn’t keep track of people, and I’m sure I’m missing some; but only in print, and not in my heart 💜

It’s also awesome to meet so many new friends and see returning readers.  This time there were people who specifically came to my booth *for me* to say hi, give feedback on books they’ve read, and purchase new ones.  What a rush!  A reminder to everyone who purchased books that emails were sent with your Coupon Code(s) to download your electronic versions.  If you didn’t get an email, let me know.  The Coupon Codes are good through June 30, 2026 so download soon!

Last but definitely not least, my DomCon crew who kept me sane with laughter the whole weekend:  Claire, Thomas and Chancellor Pratt!  OMG, you guys crack me up.

We stayed in a rental house… and lemme throw this out at ya.  Who knows anything about Substack?  Someone I met last year has his own book (that I’m three chapters into and loving… stay tuned!) and talked about this platform.  I was thinking I could use it to “rant” about things that may otherwise detract from positive experiences or life in general. …that had several problems.  So the first thing I’d write if I created a Substack would be the stupid things we encountered as renters.  Does that sound worthwhile?  Would you read it?

Moving on.  Every con, I have CP read and vote in my Creative Survey (Tuesdays and Fridays in Imaglr–NSFW).  CP forgot all about it and had to be reminded.  He read the prompt but didn’t have a vote, so I read him Nerts2u’s answer as an example.  That particular Survey, N2u wrote “I am tiny, hear me roar,” and CP burst out laughing… and continued to chuckle through the rest of N2u’s response.  He even repeated the line several times throughout the weekend, making everyone laugh, including himself.

Here’s the booth!

I sold two different books to two different filmmakers this year.  It’s nice to consider making movies and fantasizing about who to cast, but I’m remaining grounded until someone tosses a deal at me.

Sergeant May stopped by the booth and was enthralled with all of the books, so I gave her the synopsis of each one.  When I said made-for-TV Christmas movies are my guilty pleasure, she stopped me to say, “No pleasure is guilty.”  Profound in general and specifically for our setting!

It always tickles me when people are excited to have a book personally signed by the author.  My pitch comes with zero presumptions, and I say I’d love to sign it for you if you want.  So it’s a joy to be enthusiastically requested to sign.

This time the booth was close to the Hall of Kink and the stage; where there were lots of fun activities going on.  Of course there was the pet parade, the pony show, and the DomCon Pageant.  But we were also treated to something unscheduled; at least not on the books:  a kinky wedding!  Mistress Melissa Sir and Miss Blu Thiccc’ums exchanged vows with Genesis (Mistress Cyan’s wife) officiating.

It was an honor to be so close to the action–close enough to see hands shaking, tears forming and nervous smiles.  The couple held hands and looked into each other’s eyes and spoke vows from the heart that included elements of their D/s relationship.  As soon as the kiss ended, Mistress Melissa Sir took a knife to the back of Miss Blu Thiccc’ums’ laced-up wedding dress and ripped it off.  Miss Blu Thiccc’ums then performed a sensual dance.

There was one more part to this ceremony.  One I’ve been toying with including.  Up to the point of actually typing, I had decided to include it, but now I’ve changed my mind.  It would actually make a great “second” piece if there’s enough interest in a Substack side blog thingy.  I seriously don’t mean to tease you–though it’s a happy outcome–but I think it’s better served in a different forum.

Classes

A Brief History of Kink – Astrid Aegis
by Thomas Antonson

A really cool feature of the vending area at this year’s DomCon “Hall of Kink”, that was sponsored and curated by House of Ravynblood. Astrid Aegis shared some of that history in her class. She began studying kinky history in 2017 and has been a frequent presenter on the subject at DomCon LA.

It would be impossible to include the entire history of kink in a one-hour class, but Astrid did a great job of providing highlights and general arcs.

It turns out that kinky things have been going on since the dawn of humankind, with records found as far back as 6,000 BCE. I’ll spare you the entire history of Kink (you can find Astrid’s work on the history of Kink at https://www.kinkytimeline.org). I’ll just give you some highlights.

BDSM, in one form or another, appears to be a universal concept wherever humans have been on the planet. Sometimes it takes the form of religious ritual and sometimes it’s a lifestyle. Where it has been made taboo, religion is generally the culprit. Gosh, if only there was some part of our Constitution that could prevent that…

Early forms of kink include piercing, body modification, and tattoos. Ritual punishments such as whipping and torture came along later. There’s a long history of artistic depictions of kinky things going back millennia. And every time technology updated itself, kinky things found their way into the public sphere. The only thing that’s changed is the means of distribution.

Laws against kink have failed to completely suppress its practice but not for lack of trying.

Personally, I find it comforting to know that humans have been kinky as long as we’ve been around, and that was my main takeaway from Astrid’s presentation. I recommend visiting the website listed above for more detailed information.

Thomas ~ Thanks for sharing and providing the link! It makes one want to shout, “Kinksters Unite!” 😀

Your Brain on BDSM -The Commandant
by Thomas Antonson

As a neurodivergent (ADHD/Depression/Anxiety), I am interested in brain chemistry. So this class promised to be a good fit for me. And, fortunately, it delivered. Oh, boy, did it ever.

Lead by Pro-Domme The Commandant (TC), this class delivered clear scientific explanations for the ways that BDSM connects to our brains. We also got a history lesson about BDSM (bonus points).

TC gave us a tour de force of how and why our brains function in BDSM situations, including a list of chemicals: dopamine (from which the term “dope” derives); serotonin; adrenaline; epinephrine; cortisol; endorphins; and testosterone (which, by the way, is NOT an “angry” chemical).

We also learned about mental health in terms of the history of kink. BDSM has been around for a L-O-N-G time. But it wasn’t specifically criminalized until the Christians came along (shocking), and labeled it a mental illness (along with anything else from which we might derive pleasure). It even made its way into the bible of mental health, the DSM5. The DSM5 entry is riddled with inaccuracies (of course) and has resisted efforts from within the mental health community to correct the record.

It turns out that BDSM practitioners have, overall, better mental health than the general population, and there are actual studies that prove this. Yay!

TC also touched on the terms Domspace and Subspace, describing the nature of these two conditions and the benefits and dangers of both.

I hope that this class is taught at future DomCons because the information is important to our community. The more we know about the relationships between BDSM and mental health, the better we can navigate the challenges this lifestyle entails.

The Commandant was a terrific presenter. Insightful, funny, honest, entertaining, and knowledgeable. You can find out more on her website: https://hausofthecommandant.com.

Thomas ~ Sizeerrorprojection went to a class of TC’s and came away with the same feeling of awe and respect, but I can’t remember what the subject was. Anyway, thanks for sharing and also providing another link! I’ll add that I did some BDSM research awhile back that corrorborated the healthy lifestyle of kink *because* partners must have excellent communication skills. Further, they get out aggression and/or complications within the relationship in healthy ways; so BDSM is not just kink-related!

TENS, EMS, and E-Stim Toys – Traveling Fool (Jay) and Ginaria Nicotine Jen
by Thomas Antonson

Traveling Fool is a showman. In this case, it was in the service of education. And his enthusiastic assistant, Ginaria, was right there with him. We were there to learn about the uses of electricity in BDSM play. The primary focus of this presentation was the use of two different types of TENS units.

TENS stands for transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulation. They have therapeutic uses for various types of pain and are often used to treat low back pain. In simple terms, a pair of electrodes attached to sticky pads are placed on the skin. These electrodes are attached to a wire and the unit. When activated, a measured amount of electrical current is sent to the electrodes.

The closer the electrodes are to each other, the less power is required; and the greater the distance between electrodes, the more power is required.

SAFETY NOTES: 1) You should never bracket the heart horizontally with your electrodes as this could stop the heart from working; and 2) Make sure the pads are fully engaged with the skin. If there are gaps, it can cause arcing, which will burn the skin.

Jay went through a discussion of things to consider before using a TENS unit for play. One important aspect is the quality of the stick-on pads. Quality matters. Fortunately, good quality pads are available online at reasonable prices.

Two different types of TENS units were used. One was a standard unit with four inputs and various controls. The other was audio activated, which means it responds to things like music, the human voice, or any other ambient noise close by. The higher the frequency, the more current passes through the electrodes.

TENS units are not gender-specific, and Jay showed us a number of ways to stimulate male genitalia. Butt plugs and other insertibles can be used with TENS units. Placing an electrode on the head of the penis and another just below the scrotum is a great way of stimulating the prostate and the penis. There are also sounding tools that attach to TENS units. The possibilities are mind boggling. The person in control could spend considerable time edging their sub before allowing them to achieve orgasm, or just denying them altogether.

Here’s where Ginaria comes in. She stripped down to her bra and panties and lay face-up on a massage table. Jay demonstrated the proper way to attach the electrodes. He placed a pair of electrodes on each of Ginaria’s breasts; above and below the nipple. He sent some current to the electrodes, and Ginaria reacted. Then he gave her the unit and she set it to where she felt most comfortable. The purpose was not to cause pain, but that certainly could be done if desired.

Then Jay switched targets with a sound-activated unit. He placed two electrodes on each side of Ginaria’s outer labia, oriented vertically. One pair bracketed the top of Ginaria’s major labia, which allowed current to pass through the clitoris. The other pair was mounted lower.

This is where the real fun started.

For the next half an hour, Ginaria experienced multiple orgasms from the combined stimulation of her nipples and vagina. The class clapped or cheered as directed by Jay, and the resulting sound produced instant results. Then he moved the unit near Ginaria’s head where her screams activated the current. She tried valiantly to keep from screaming, but it was no use. I’m sure the people in the meeting room next to ours were wondering what the hell was going on. We didn’t care.

I got a chance to speak with Ginaria later in the day to ask how she was doing (as if the massive grin on her face didn’t clue me in). She was a happy camper.

TENS units can be used for solo play, but for my money, the real fun comes from using them on a partner. Imagine being able to produce uncontrollable orgasms in a bound subject. OR, being able to edge someone for hours. Or even just being able to inflict pain. As long as your subject is healthy and you follow proper safety protocols, this is a portable and easy play toy that should be in everyone’s BDSM tool kit.

You can find Traveling Fool on FetLife, as travelingfool, where he has video clips and other information about e-Stim play.

Thomas ~ I knew you’d love this class! I met Jay a few years ago at DomCon LA attending one of his classes, and we have communicated ever since. He’s a great educator, focused always on safety first but ensconced in humor so you don’t know how much you’re learning. Thanks for the write-up and link to more info!

Interview with Lumbersnackster

Lumbersnackster, or Snacks, and I were across-the-aisle vendor neighbors.  I had the opportunity to observe him long before our interview on Sunday.  He is 6’4” (193cm), bald, shirtless with a leather harness, kilt, and comfy shoes.  Normally those stats would indicate a foreboding presence.  In Snacks’ case, however, his calm and accepting demeanor make him more approachable than frightening.

If you didn’t know anything about him, you might think he was a rock star by the number of “groupies” who whisked into his booth, arms outstretched and smiles wide.  I noticed several who sought out Snacks after watching him session at the play party the night before.  They were shy and kept their arms to themselves, though they couldn’t prevent their grin from expanding when Snacks regarded them affectionately.

I grabbed my purple pen and notebook after observing him with a prospective customer… a skinny male, a foot shorter than Snacks.  I couldn’t hear the exchange but Snacks softly flogged the customer–with an undeniable command of skill and kindness–then flipped it to use the base of the instrument down the man’s spine.  As he did, he leaned in to explain the multi uses of the tool–or so I assume.  When the demonstration was complete, Snacks turned over the toy to the customer and stepped aside.  No more speaking from Snacks and definitely no hard sell was necessary… in fact, I’m not sure Snacks even knows what that means.  It was a beautiful moment for many reasons, and I’m glad to have witnessed it.

His sub greer was in the booth much of the weekend, and I asked her to give me three adjectives to describe Snacks.  She thought momentarily before saying, “Patience, generous and gracious.”  Then explained, “He’s so awesome and giving, which is why I give so much of myself to him.”

When I asked him for the interview, he gave me website links.  I reviewed them beforehand and was shocked by his statement that he’s relatively new to the scene.  That’s where I started the interview, and, aside from a few follow-up questions, Snacks unraveled his story, which I’ll relay in the same order…

He admits to only being kinky for three years, then states he is poly.  His wife and a former girlfriend dragged him to a dungeon for a rope event to introduce him to kink.  He says everyone was kind, but he didn’t get a whole lot out of the night because he was managing the emotional dynamics.  Everyone else was coupled but he was with two partners, so he felt like he was there for both of them and not really himself.

The women didn’t give up.  A couple of nights later, they returned for a “taster night”, where there were many kinky activities to experience.  Snacks lights up when he talks about the guy on stage who was flogging.  He said, “I left the two at the doorway and said, ‘I wanna do that!’”  For the next 45 minutes, he talked to that dom, who was very generous and kind, and showed him the different floggers and talked about everything.

That night, Snacks went home and bought seven floggers on eBay.  Then he realized he needed to know how to use them, and signed up for a class three weeks out in Hollywood.  When the floggers arrived, he saw they were trash.  He used to do archery and made his own arm guards, so he knew good leather and he was crafty.  So he set about to make his own flogger.

When he arrived at class, the instructor asked where he got it.  Followed promptly by, “Holy shit, I thought you’ve only been into this for three weeks and you’re makin’ floggers?”  The guy said if Snacks used a lathe and wood, he’d fill a hole in the community.  So Snacks spent the next two weeks watching YouTube videos, bought a lathe… and sliced the tip of his thumb.  He cussed a lot but finished the flogger.

A quick timeline:  March of ‘23 was his first class, May of ‘23 he made the first flogger.  In June he sold the instructor a pair for $200.00.  At the same time, his mom was worried about finances, so he brought her on to run the books, and he started making toys.  His first DomCon LA was ‘24, and he sold them.

He’d go to dungeons when they had classes and vendors, or people’s houses.  That’s where he saw pro doms and thought, wow, this happens.  One of his “friends” told him that he’d never be a dom because no one would pay him to top them.  He further instructed him to stay in his own lane… and something about when pigs fly.

At this point in the interview, someone came into the booth for Snacks.  He said that he was giving an interview and to come back, which also speaks volumes about him!

With Snacks’ patience and devotion to learn, he quickly realized some femdoms struggle with weight and the kinetic energy of floggers.  So he created ones that were light and fast.  Other people told him their wrists hurt and they couldn’t hold the handles.  So he made ball floggers that wrap around the wrist.  At this point on the timeline, he’s seven months from vanilla to pro toymaker.

From there, the owner of Legacy Studios said he had great hands and would make an excellent pro dom.  His skills were evident from taking classes, learning, watching, and vending in dungeons.  He likens his path to Antonio Bendaras’ character in “The 13th Warrior” when asked how he was able to speak to people in their own language:  “I listened.”

Timeline update:  18 months from vanilla to pro toymaker to pro dom.

Snacks became teary-eyed when he talked about receiving the vending award in 2025 at DomCon.  At breakfast the day of the opening ceremony, he told Mistress Cyan that he didn’t feel like he belongs here.  At the start of the ceremony, Mistress Cyan told everyone, “If you are in this room, you belong”–it’s something I wrote about in my review last year; the power of that statement.

At this point, Snacks proudly showed me a patch that he started to wear when he became a pro dom.  It’s a cool, pink pig with wings.  He wears it because of the pro dom who told him “pigs will fly before you become a dom.”

Shortly after, he did a scene with a girl, and it turned out they were both crushing on each other.  He never considered a D/s dynamic and he was monogamous, but when he talked with his wife, it felt right.  And his wife and greer get along.

So what about prior to three years ago?  Snacks claims to have had many lives.  He grew up Catholic, and, at 18, decided his path was to be a deacon in a church.  He was a paid youth minister for two parishes.  He was married three times.  The first two wives cheated on him–which made discussing poly somewhat triggering with the third.

When he realized he was completely shut down, he turned to two polar opposite things to overcome it:  comedy and therapy–not at the same time.  He recites with glee the very first joke he ever told on stage:  “You ever love someone so much that you just spend hours in the day and time evades you, just tryin’ to figure out, you know, how to kill ‘em?”

The “percussive laughter” was invigorating and he began to circuit, until his wife asked him to stop because it was causing a strain on the marriage.  Snacks did.

He took a moment to reflect and said that as a youth minister, he “spoke to young people who just wanted to be loved and accepted.  And in the kink journey, I’ve seen the same.”  He stresses the need for real therapy, and acknowledges he was “emotionally volatile”.  His current wife loved him enough to allow him to find healing.

Snacks learned to deal with so much and concludes that “life is journey through a desert, and, when you get lost, you go to that well to get through hard times.  Sometimes people take a shit in your well.  And you gotta get rid of it.”  He talked about the bad voices in his head and how he worked hard to get rid of them.  He says he had to flood his well with I’m kind, I’m present, I’m generous with my time.  Now he loves people, and people love him.  That is what’s in his well.

Listening to a litany of podcasts Snacks realized he’s not alone.  Maybe other people have similar issues.  And “we’re doing our best to get through it and figure it out.”

Snacks is in a great place today.  You can see him at DomCon or you can book a session with him.  Check out his Fetlife, where he’s lumbersnackster or you can check out his page on Legacy Studios.

To Snacks ~ It was a pleasure to share space at DomCon.  With you in the world, I have hope for humanity.  I hope our paths cross again, you kind soul.

Shortly after I interviewed Snacks, I met Natalie, who owns Legacy Studios.  She is also a terrific human.  When I asked her what her favorite scene is, she talked about a guy who would book multiple pros.  They would spend hours in a space, where he would order them to stand in one place, or slightly move them.  He would walk around the room and whisper to them individually.  Everything was quiet yet controlled.  He would whisper to one while striking another or order someone to strike someone else.  The scene sticks out to Natalie because she always felt like she was on the edge because she never knew what would happen next.

You may be asking why would the owner of a dungeon be in what seems to be a subservient scene?  The answer is simple:  Natalie is a pro switch.  Legacy is unique in that it offers something for most kinks.  Spend some time on the site!

Conclusion

Thanks to everyone who made my DomCon LA another success.  I love meeting new people, seeing old friends, and hanging out with my buds. 💜

To all who purchased books… a reminder to download your electronic books before the end of the month.

To Claire, Thomas and Chancellor Pratt ~ I couldn’t have done it without you! *hugs* until next year…

 

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BDSM Checklists

Check out my FREE BDSM Checklists.

I created two BDSM Checklists to assist with communication and negotiation.  One is grouped by fetishes and the other is an alphabetical listing, and both have spaces for you to fill in additional ones.

Make sure you check out the Checklists!  Then, tell me what you think and how you used them.

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For other kinky advice, check my blog archives.

Happy reading,

~B.J.