It’s difficult to open the door here–the humidity crashes in–so I hope you are happily cool, wherever you are.
This is a final reminder to all DomCon LA customers to download your books TODAY!
The Dominion and the Sugilite – Supplement 3 is live!
***Spoiler Alert!*** This third Supplement assumes the reader has read the first three seasons, Episodes 1 through 30, of my Fantasy/Sci-Fi Erotic Soap Opera with Femdom themes! As such, it reveals plot points and spoilers from the first 30 episodes. Take care to read this incredible space opera in order before reading this Supplement.
This book is a behind-the-scenes guide to the Third Season of “D/s”. I provide background information on plot, characters and scenes not found in any of the individual episodes.
Also included are detailed charts of characters with pronunciations, their role in the soap, what episodes they appear in, and what their names mean.
The Supplement also summarizes each episode for easy reference. While there are no new scenes, and therefore no erotic content, readers will be reminded of their favorite scenes from the Episodes 21 through 30 and learn more about some of them.
Episode 36 coming soon!
If you haven’t started the series yet, you can jump in by getting The First Season at a discount, and don’t forget to get the Supplement, which contains all the behind-the-scenes tidbits as well as charts and episode synopses.
Reviews are important, especially in the erotica genre. So go to Goodreads and write reviews for all of my books that you’ve read. Also, “like” the other positive reviews. Not only could you influence a potential reader but you’ll make me happy. Remember, our new goal is 1,000 reviews!
Follow-up from Long Ago
A long time ago, I did a challenge to caption Koki’s pic. I keep forgetting to swing back around to it, because the next blog post didn’t have a pupdate. Thanks for keeping me on my toes. Thomas Antonson’s caption won. And because he’s my editor, there was no prize. So it’s rather anticlimactic, but there y’go. *grin*
Oh, but I also promised to tell you the story behind the pic. This was taken in the wee hours of the morning, when I was away and my girls were puppysitting. We were talking, Koki woke up and gave them this face, clearly irritated at being woken up 😀
More Bot Shit
I am a strong advocate warning would-be submissives against bots claiming to want you as their slave. Dominants do not seek out submissives. They don’t have to. So think before you respond, go off-site or give out any personal information.
I was recently contacted in Tumblfux by an account who was not following me, and I certainly was not following. If you receive a DM from someone who’s not a mutual, that should be a huge red flag.
Here’s the homepage blurb: “I LIVE AND BREATH DOMINATION, SERVE ME CORRECTLY AND I’LL TAKE YOU PLACES IN YOUR MIND YOU’VE NEVER BEEN”
Yes, it was all caps; and yes, it contained the errors.
Here’s the DM: “Hello b–j–frazier, you got an energy that stands out.. I can’t quite put my finger on it yet, but I’d love to. Where are you located?”
If someone is using all those hyphens to address me, it obviously does not recognize that that’s not a real name. By the way, I had to use so many hyphens because I’ve been kicked off of Tumblfux too many times; but that’s a whole other rant.
I will give credit for the message being more than “hi”. But the “where are you located” question is another huge red flag. Many bot accounts claim to be in the town right next to yours–conveniently mentioned in a DM and not on the homepage. Why? Because they’re *NOT* right up the road or even in the same country.
Beware, and stay safe!
Have you had an obvious bot interaction? Let me know, and I’ll include it in the next blog post!
I’ve Coined a New Term ~ “Bi-Obedient”
…at least I’ve never heard it used before. I talk to a lot of submissive men about a lot of kinky scenarios. Many claim to be bi-curious or bisexual, and even more fall into an unknown area: They would like to obey a female’s orders, whatever they may be.
If those orders included sexual activity with another male, they would do it, even though it’s not something they fantasize about or would enjoy were it not for a female telling them to do it.
I’ve had lots of conversations with lots of people–submissives and dominants alike–about whether the act of a male sucking another male’s cock in this scenario is considered homosexual. The submissives who don’t identify as homosexual, bi-curious or bisexual don’t think / wonder / are concerned that it’s considered homosexual.
Recently, I had a similar conversation with secondterm. I was short on time and wanted to express my understanding in a succinct way, so I defined it as “bi-obedient”. The more I thought about it and used the term, the more I loved it. Some of my books contain scenes of forced bi or a female pushing a sub’s boundaries, and I wish I had coined the term a lot sooner. But have no fear! You will see it in upcoming works, for sure!
I am not alone in my affection for the term. Secondterm has endorsed it ~ “The bi-obedient terminology is likely the best Femdom term I’ve heard yet!”
Something else I’ve contributed to the kink community. Use it freely. You’re welcome.
B.J.’s Online Book Club Recap
The latest Book Club did not disappoint. We discussed “The Dominion and the Sugilite – The Second Season”. It was nice to see so many members–and we even had a new one join!
Readers are growing suspect of many of the characters. And a few want to see an upheaval of the female rule at the Dominion. Not that they don’t appreciate femdom, but they’re eager to see who would fall on which side, and how the Dominion would prevail.
There were also some nice psychological questions about Gaius. He is the head Satyr, who many people found annoying but found sympathy for, after his night in jail.
Thanks to everyone who participated!
The next Book Club will be Friday, August 28, 2026 at 1p Eastern. Which book we discuss is up to you. Vote now!
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Here’s what you said after the last blog post.
sizeerrorprojection ~ “Ok… turn it off… turn it off…” I like rb’s sense of humor. [From the short funny clip in the last blog post. Happy to pass along the giggles, sep!]
Koki’s doing the “Staying Alive” John Travolta pose in his sleep! [HAHA, omg, he totally does!]
Mistress Melissa Sir got MARRIED to her #1 sub. I’m so happy for them. I met them briefly at last year’s Domcon LA in a class Blue Thiccc’ums taught. [Yes, and we saw Mistress Melissa Sir do a scene at a play party in NOLA a coupla years ago]
Your interview of Lumbersnacker made me feel like I knew him. Thanks for sharing as always, B.J. [That makes me happy, sep!]
Selina Minx ~ Your dogs are so cute! Thanks for all that you do. 🙂 [Back acha, Selina!]
CredereGoodBoy ~ Just read Your blog. I was excited to to see my birthday task shared. Thank you. You put a lot of work into the blog content … very well done. [You did a great job with the task, CGB. And thank you; it means a lot to know my work is appreciated]
Thomas Antonson ~ Another stellar blog post! Love the interview and the Koki pics. Labs grow adult bodies in a hurry but stay puppies for a few years — could be a good thing or a bad thing. [Thanks… a lot of it was you! :p I throw toys in the den which sometimes land on the crate or a shelf, and Koki barks at it. He doesn’t realize he can’t reach it. At first I encouraged it, then quickly changed my mind. If he doesn’t think he can get it, all the better! :D]
Oklahomardk ~ Congratulations on selling 2 of your books to filmmakers . Hope to see them make it to production. [While I love the way your comment sounds, I need to be clear… the filmmakers were merely purchasing books to read. That said, I’m definitely down to make movies!]
toymax ~ Awww – it makes me sad to read that Koki killed Snoopy. Good thing is: Your birthday is coming up soon. [Snoopy was my fave when I was little. I had a large stuffed Snoopy that I carried around by the neck so much that I severed the head. I was devastated… and felt a similar twinge when Koki destuffed his]
Thanks to Thomas for his class reports. The subject of e-stim fascinates me immensely. I have experimented with it myself, but I don’t really dare to take it a step further, since – as Thomas reported in his Safety Notes – it can become very dangerous. Unfortunately, the balance between pleasure and pain is something one cannot achieve on one’s own. [You can always push the button quickly at a higher level, Max :)]
Send me your thoughts on this blog post, and I’ll include it in the next Community Kink Chat!
BDSM Checklists
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created two BDSM Checklists to assist with communication and negotiation. One is grouped by fetishes and the other is an alphabetical listing, and both have spaces for you to fill in additional ones.
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Happy reading,
~B.J.
