Time to Celebrate
Time to Celebrate
Whatever you celebrate, I hope it is filled with family, friends, love… and kink! I appreciate how you give me your time.
Your time when you not only buy books but time when you write reviews, send feedback and participate in Book Club.
Your time when you reblog my posts in smedia, comment on my posts, and DM me purple posts–and green ones when the Spartans are playing.
Your time when you vote in my Creative Surveys, and when you explain your answers.
Your time when you read my blog posts and send in your comments–even if it’s to say you still hate Gaius or Bernie. 🙂
Your time when you read my newsletters and send in your comments.
My gift to you is a FREE BOOK this holiday season. “The Dominion and the Sugilite” is an erotic sci-fi/fantasy soap opera with femdom themes, and it’s catching on quickly! There are already 14 episodes out (with 15 coming next week), a supplement to the first season, and the entire first season bundled. My gift is a FREE EPISODE or supplement. And, because I like ya so much, you can even put the coupon toward the complete first season!
Now through December 15, use Coupon Code: FHP8NZBZ at checkout, and Merry Kinkmas!
Speaking of newsletter subscribers, they received a gift from me as well, which makes two gifts! Don’t miss out on the next one; subscribe today!
Now you might be saying, how can I return the favor, B.J.? My first answer is always, buy, read and review my books! My second answer is to gift me something from my wish list.
Consider the amount of paid subscription platforms there are. Now consider how much you spend per month or per year on those subscriptions. Then consider how much I provide to you for free: BDSM Checklists, Blog Posts, Newsletters, Community Kink Chat, DomCon Reviews, Interviews with Professional Dommes, Online Book Club, Creative Surveys, and DM access to me (not a sub or an automaton) in several smedia sites.
It’s a lot; you’re welcome. Now, thank me properly.
Smedia
SmediaSpeaking of smedia, if any of you are still on Tumblfux, please send me *appropriate* posts in DM. I’ve been kicked enough so that I will not post any nudity. That means it’s difficult to find quality posts. So help me!
Also, there has been a mass exodus from Twitshitland to BS or Blue Sky. If you have migrated or just discovered it, follow me there!
Mistletoe Bound Early Reviews
Early reviews give the highest marks to this wonderful life of a hallmark Christmas story! You can read them on Goodreads or wait until you finish the book to get inspiration for your review <–see what I did there?
Sally Bend’s newsletter title was “Every Time a Bell Clinks, B.J. Frazier Gets Her Kinks in Mistletoe Bound”. You can find her review on her blog now or when you finish the book.
Want to wait for the book but can’t wait for the book? The preview is now live!
If you haven’t pre-ordered your copy yet, do it today!
Readers on my site will have access to the book a day before the public. It will be released on December 24, 2024–that’s only 12 days from now!
B.J.’s Online Book Club Recap
Book Club was bittersweet because while we discussed all five “Eli” books, we finished the “Eli” series. Jessie and I had so much fun discussing this series with you. Thank you for sharing intimate details of your lives and how Eli resonated with you. He was special to us while writing, and it makes us giddy to know how special he is to you, too!
Before Book Club, I forwarded some questions from readers to Jessie. He gave me his responses early because he doesn’t type as fast as I do. Amongst his answers was a nugget of an idea of how the series could be added to or be branched off. During Book Club, I teased readers about whether they wanted to hear his response.
Then I stared at a blank screen, because no one typed anything for a long time. So I typed, beg me!
Then I laughed, because everyone begged, and said they had been waiting for the answer, because they thought I was talking to Jessie! 😀
It was also discussed/revealed that “Eli” is based on a famous work of literature, and people guessed. Some thought mythology, and it was asked, who in mythology cross-dressed? Thanks to sizeerrorprojection for his quick-thinking brain. He remembered that Loki from Norse mythology has done a lot of different things. Sep searched for Loki and cross-dressing, and linked us to this fun read. Thanks, sep!
The next Online Book Club is Saturday, February 21, 2024 at 4:00 p.m., Eastern. VOTE now for which book we will discuss.
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B.J. as a Boxer
I was chatting with rubbug last month, and I told him I started to work out again with a trainer. I 
confessed to absolutely hating to work out in general, and he pressed for something that I liked. Besides the workout being over, I told him I really loved to punch.
From there, rubbug became inspired. He is the creative force behind “The Dominion and the Sugilite” covers. His artistic flair took in my love for purple, and he sent me these two pictures. Whaddya think?
Here’s what you said after the last blog post.
Ballerina Goddess ~ I like your taste in words! I enjoyed reading it from your perspective. What you thought, see or hear. Also, very kind of you to take the time to learn ASL for what you needed to communicate with me. I hope that it doesn’t stop you from there. Feel free to explore these apps: The asl app, but I highly recommend Lingvano. Thank you again for your time. Lovely interview. [Ballerina Goddess, I’m so glad you enjoyed the interview. I will check out Lingvano, and look forward to seeing you at DomCon in June!]
sizeerrorprojection ~ Thank you for sharing Mistress Mia’s shoutout. Just hearing her voice again made me smile and remember. *still smiling* [She’s amazing!]
Your Final Thoughts in blog post 5 brought tears to my eyes, B.J. I’ll have to take picture for the blog of your “real” daiquiri in LA next year. [Wait, does that mean you were crying because I didn’t have a picture of YOUR drink?? :p]
And… I’m definitely feeling uncomfortable with all the positive feedback… Thomas, and servicepet definitely covered a ton of ground in the booth. Thomas was amazing at getting people to engage with you and servicepet kept us all laughing and inspired. [Everyone ramped it up, requiring THREE Claires to make the booth work smoothly. But you were over the top with driving, finding restaurants, etc., etc. So… shut the fuck up and get comfy with the positive feedback. You deserve it, sep!]
Ballerina Goddess is amazing! And really appreciates any effort to communicate that shows understanding that she is deaf. I fumbled through signing L.A., just two letters, when she asked if I had taken her class b4, and was rewarded with a big, warm smile and a fist bump. I keep meeting nothing but amazing dommes at Domcon. [Thanks for sharing her with us, sep!]
toymax ~ On Your Interview with Domina Ballerina Goddess: In the past I really thought that every Dominatrix woke up one day and thought: “Okay – I’m going to be a professional Dominatrix”. Just like it can happen with any other job. But Your interviews always show me that I was too naive here. It’s usually not a direct route. This is probably exactly what makes every Dominatrix so unique. Your interviews are always my personal highlight. Thank You very much for Your huge effort, Mistress B.J. [They’re my highlight, too, because I love getting to know people, and Ballerina Goddess is a treasure! Thank you, too, for acknowledging the effort, Max]
Multiperv ~ I understand Thomas being impressed by your ‘sales mode’. Wait until he sees you and Claire working together! [Thank you, MP!]
Wow, that story of you selling the French guy is amazing. I wonder if he was by chance a sub, as we sometimes have trouble saying no, or so I’ve heard. Still, given the language hurdles it’s still a very impressive feat. [I hoped he’d send feedback, but I haven’t heard from him. He said he understood English better than he read it, so, with the audiobook, I’m sure he enjoyed it :)]
Thanks to sep for the write-up on primal play. I’ve always been a bit wary of it, maybe because I’m not an especially physical or animalistic person, but he explained it well and made it seem somewhat more appealing, and at least more understandable. [Yes, I think there was more relatable material in this primal class than the previous one sep attended]
As someone else who now wears hearing aids, I can definitely relate to how disorienting hearing every sound, including ones your brain normally ignores or filters out, can be. I’m supposed to get used to mine with time, but I’m sorry they haven’t become more natural for Domina Ballerina Goddess. Her guy is not very high on my Dom of the Year nominee list. Still, as she pointed out, it gave her some very good lessons in what NOT to do to someone new. [Agree with everything, MP!]
Good newsletter. [Thank you!]
Thomas Antonson ~ I think it’s really cool that you link to reviews you’ve written about other author’s works. In fact, your review of Sally Bend’s latest release(s) made me decide to buy two of her books. Also, the titles had “Futanari” in them. [How cool! I look forward to your feedback, and I’m sure Sally does, too!]
Your final review of DomCon NOLA was a fun read. I think these reviews meant more to me this year because I was actually there and met the people you interviewed. It was like getting to go back to NO again without paying for a flight (lol). Great memories. [As a newbie yourself, what advice do you have for someone who’s read the reviews and is considering attending a DomCon?]
And, last, but not least, I hope that you have a wonderful December and an awesome New Year. [Aww, thanks, Thomas, and back acha!]
rubbug ~ I’m glad you got waited on hand and feet by 3 guys, you deserve to have that all the time. [Thank you, rb. I don’t know about all the time, but I enjoyed it! :)]
Ballerina Goddess seems incredible. With my past, I do feel connected to her in a way, and it’s great to know she has become a Goddess despite every obstacle she has faced. I’m glad that we got to know about someone so amazing, and I’m grateful that you took the time to interview her. Deaf people do face challenges that I feel most able-bodied people are completely unaware of, but you taking the time to actually speak to her means a ton. And thank you for allowing me a small role in helping you do so, I’m glad I could help with that initial greeting. [I couldn’t have greeted her without you, rb… now you’ll have to help me with the app she suggested! :)]
Send me your comments, and I’ll put them in the next blog post!
Tis the Season
I always prefer that you buy, read and review my books as the best present you can give me. However, many of you have requested a Wish List so send me more tangible things for the holidays.
For you, I created a Throne Wish List.
As you shop for me, I ask you to also send me feedback on one of my books as well!
And as always, thank you.
BDSM Checklists
Check out my FREE BDSM Checklists.
I 
created two BDSM Checklists to assist with communication and negotiation. One is grouped by fetishes and the other is an alphabetical listing, and both have spaces for you to fill in additional ones.
Make sure you check out the Checklists! Then, let me know what you think and how you used them.
Do you have a kinky question you’d like answered? Use the contact form to submit your question. All questions will be kept anonymous unless you’d prefer to be named.
For other kinky advice, check my blog archives.
Happy reading,
~B.J.
