“The Ethical Werewolf Society” Reviews
It’s that spooky time of year where shapeshifters abound and all things turn sexual… which is exactly why Jessie Spectre and I teamed up again to bring you “The Ethical Werewolf Society”.
Mx Phoebe featured this book in her Spicy Saturday section of her blog:
“If you are looking for a hit of something spicy for the upcoming Halloween holiday, The Ethical Werewolf Society is a quick-read with just enough to get your engines revving.”
Read her entire review on her blog.
Get your copy and start the heat today!
All My Links
I created this some time ago but haven’t promoted it. Having been told by several readers that the new place to be is Imaglr, I thought this would be a great time to get the word out for both platforms.
Many of you first met me on bdsmlr. It was my first attempt at anything smedia-related, and it will always hold a special place in my heart. However, there always seems to be a fundamental problem (if not one thing, then another) on that site, creating more frustration than titillation. After the recent patch of hiccups, I noticed that my Creative Surveys aren’t getting the same responses they used to.
I will still be active on bdsmlr, but I’ve ventured out. I just started Imaglr this week, which doesn’t have a drafts folder or a favorites tab, and I find the queue to be rather finicky. But I’m starting, so follow me there and send me a DM, and I’ll follow you back!
For everywhere else you can find me, go to my links page!
DomCon NOLA
If it’s close to Halloween, then it’s time for DomCon NOLA! From October 23-26 in the heart of New Orleans, you can get kink educated, access open dungeons, walk the red carpet, and shop the vendor hall… where you can meet ME!
Come see me at Booth #126 and get an autographed book… or 12! B.J. Frazier books make great Christmas presents, too!
My latest Christmas novel, “An Ornamental Christmas” is already in the hands of several reviewers and will be available for preorder soon, with a November 28 release date.
My three newly printed books are: “A Domme for Christmas”, “Mistletoe Bound” and “The Dominion and the Sugilite – The First Season”
Check out DomCon’s website. DM if you’re going!
Not Everything Penis is Sexual
I recently watched this clip from Last Week Tonight with John Oliver, and had to share!
This is actually a Danish cartoon show aimed at kids, where the main character is John Dillermand, which translates to John Penisman. His penis is large, striped and can accomplish huge feats–none of them sexual.
There were psychologists in the creation, and they said, amongst other things, he was created to talk about body awareness and even gender identity. I applaud them for finding innovative ways to talk about real issues as opposed to pretending like they don’t exist.
That said, I am kinda concerned about this type of discussion involving a man’s super-sized dick. What do you think?
On the flipside, I’d rather have a superhuman appendage being aired than massive prohibitions regarding sex and “morals”, like here in the U.S.
Apply the Same Intelligence for Bot Scams
I recently got an email from Discover warning about ways people scam, and it outlined several recent ploys. It occurred to me that most of you are intelligent and can clearly tell when emails are fake. So why not put the same logic into bots who pose as dominants online and seek to give you the perfect D/s fantasy?
Definitely something to consider as we move into the holiday season where emotions always run high.
As a reminder, I am a certified relationship coach and sexologist. If you need someone to talk to, DM me.
Pupdate!
Warning… entering cuteness territory!
In all the news last time about the new little guy, I forgot to tell you that Thomas Antonson picked me up and took me to his house, where Koki was delivered to me. Thomas was also there when I visited the litter in early September. And it was Thomas who noticed that “white collar” chose me from the very beginning. Thanks, Thomas!
It seems so long ago, but it’s only been 2.5 weeks since I brought Koki home.
And boy has he GROWN!
Ledger, my old guy (a/k/a “Jake” from “Mistress Managed”), didn’t start playing with the wee one until last week. Once he did, he wouldn’t stop. Literally. He would nudge Koki when he was sleeping, and I had to tell Ledge to back off. Not saying everything is wonderful now, but we’re getting there. And I even got a couple of pictures to prove it!
Koki doesn’t know how to chill and go to sleep on his own; afraid of missing out on 
something. This is the time he is at his naughtiest. So, off to the crate he goes, where he immediately plops down and sleeps. He got a larger crate, but he still prefers to lie smushed up against something.
I take him “to school” a coupla times a day, which is just me and him in the den with “treats” (food). He’s only 9.5 weeks but he already knows: sit, down, shake, high-five, spin, wait, food, water, and we’re working on come, but that’s reallly difficult when there are so many other things to explore, especially outside!
Who’s got a pet? Tell me about how you trained yours. Send me a pic!
More pupdates in the next blog post.
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Here’s what you said after the last blog post.
KleinschwanzCucky ~ I’m actually afraid of dogs, but Koki IS cute. 😀 I’m glad he’s settled in so well! [KC, you would NOT be afraid of Koki; he’s a lover!]
rubbug ~ Congrats on the release of D/s 27, it was awesome! And congrats on the release of the Werewolf Society too! Looks like it’ll be a fun read. [Thank you, and I can’t wait for your feedback, rb!]
The ban is pretty worrisome. Hopefully it doesn’t make it far. [So far, no movement, but I’m keeping my eye on it]
Koki is very cute. His overly big ears are amazing. [You can see them hanging out of the crate in the pic! He’s still got a lot of growing to do :)]
toymax ~ On Michigan Porn Ban: It’s painful to see that dark times have dawned in the country that was once the epitome of freedom. I don’t even dare to think about what that might mean for You and Your art, Mistress B.J. [Yes, Max. It is painful, sad, deplorable, frustrating, and so many other adjectives!]
Congratulations on Your cute new family member. I’m happy to read that Ledger welcomed him as well. I’m sure the two will become good friends. [They’re on their way!]
Psst – I’ve started reading the Ethical Werewolf Society. 🙂 [Ooh, tease!! Can’t wait for you to finish it, Max!]
Multiperv ~ On kink becoming mainstream: Good article, good points. It’s good in some ways and I’m very happy that there is greater awareness and that kinksters aren’t feeling as lonely, isolated, and freakish as many of us did because they think they’re the only ones. Unfortunately with the pendulum swinging back toward the right that puts many in the now larger community in some form of danger, if not today than probably in the next couple of years. So we may be heading toward another period of (self) isolation, ostracization, and secrecy. I already have some trans friends who won’t come to Texas for fear of their own safety and I honestly don’t blame them. [Yes, it is a sad time, indeed, MP]
Texas has had an anti-porn bill in place for a year or two now. It has made things more of a pain in the ass though I agree with keeping porn out of the hands/eyes of children. But there are many sites that don’t do anything to comply. But kids will be kids, making the whole thing somewhat absurd. [Agreed; morality should not be up to lawmakers but parents]
You may be seeing a lot of green in my smedia posts, and that’s because it’s MSU Football season!
My Spartans are NOT looking good. Very disappointing homecoming game last week. This week we travel to Indiana… where it needs to be a win for the Spartans.
So if you see a *hot*, green post, DM me.
GO GREEN!
B.J.’s Online Book Club
VOTE for the next book we discuss at Book Club!
Last Book Club we discussed “The Cucksitter Training”, which was so much fun! Readers had a lot to say about the story, the characters… and were happy to know that there will be sequels! Currently, I have two more stories planned, but could see it continuing.
Here are some adjectives readers came up with for the three main characters:
Herrin M ~ intelligent, intuitive, focused, competent, single-minded, controlled, self-assured
Nora ~ open-minded, inquisitive, wild card, insightful, enthusiastic, thrill-seeking
Bianca ~ bewildered, dumbfounded, nonconformist, repressed
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The next Book Club will be Sunday, January 18, 2026 at 4:00p Eastern.
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Happy reading,
~B.J.
