Can You Believe We’re Already at Episode Seven?
It’s not even July, and “The Dominion and the Sugilite” has seven episodes published! I thought I kinda sorta maybe had a good idea but I didn’t expect to have this much *fun* writing a space opera!
The Dominion and the Sugilite ~ Episode 7
What is Cozima’s parting shot?
How does Geo handle a Nymph?
Why does Aurora get drunk?
Find out these answers and so much more in the next tantalizing installment of “The Dominion and the Sugilite”… with Episode 8 coming soon.
If you haven’t started the series… make sure you start this weekend!
For those of you who have avidly followed: Episode 8 is already back from the editor, and Episode 9 has been started!
Y’know I’m a feedback whore, so make sure you enable me!
Here’s what you said after the last blog post.
toymax ~ Thank You for writing the soap opera. You do me a great favor with it. Science fiction which plays in a Female led world, hot fantasy characters, mixed with spicy hot scenes – what more could a little dreamer want? I’m happy and excited to read that there are so many more episodes waiting to come. [Then you should be VERY happy that Episode 7 just dropped, Max! *grin*]
The DomCon review was again very detailed, Mistress B.J. Kudos to Your writers. They do a verrrry good job. [I’m very grateful to them because I can’t be everywhere]
rubbug ~ All those cautionary tales from Jay were scary, but I think shows how much care and trust play a role in BDSM. Sep’s detailed notes on Jay’s and Lady Shadow’s classes were really educational. Didn’t know anything about corsets, now I do! [Many thanks to sep again!]
The protocol stuff seemed like way too much, but I get that they’re more advisory. I was surprised to read that there is an app to track obedience. But I guess there’s an app for everything at this point. [Me, too!]
The improv stuff seemed really cool. As someone who easily gets stuck in his head, I could see how something like that could help me be more present. And that ending was hilarious and I’m sure very satisfying. [You will have to try it and report back, rb!]
The interview with Madam Serpent and Solar was great. The sense of community I got from it, and the entire DomCon scene is so welcoming. Once again ASL being used by Domina Ballerina Goddess shows the inclusivity, too. Some cool people in the space. Thanks again to you, Mistress BJ, for showing everyone how incredible some of these people are through your interviews and stories. [Happy to do it. I’m glad you enjoy, rb]
Multiperv ~ I too had an emergency and had to sneak pee behind an Exxon station. This, however, was first trying the Exxon station and, before that, a store next to it, and finding both places had employee only or out of service restrooms. I knew I wouldn’t be able to make the drive to a third place so I just went for it and luckily did not get in trouble. [Claire will be happy she’s not alone!]
I’m glad that my service bag inspired sep to make one of his own. Unfortunately I forgot to move some things to my checked luggage, causing me further delays on a flight I was already almost late for – thanks L.A. traffic! – with a very unhelpful TSA team and even got a handful of things confiscated. Luckily I still made my flight, barely. [What’d you get confiscated?!]
Very nice touch on sep spotting and taking advantage of the purple level of the parking garage. My ‘tight spaces in a parking garage’ story did not turn out so well as I think that’s when or where I got some scratches on my rental. [Oh no! You needed sep to park for you *grin*]
Wow, it’s interesting you seem to get very “I remember where I was when” news while on Domcon trips. This time it was ‘guilty on 34 counts’, last time it was Matthew Perry dying while we were at Cafe DuMonde. Do you remember any big news you learned about at your other two Domcons? [I don’t but this may be the start of a trend]
I like the Clown Liquor story, My guess is they walk up to you and squirt the liquor into your face from a flower on their lapels. [*LAUGHING*]
Wow, a single printing of A Domme for Christmas?! Great gift idea though I’m guessing it was a pricy one as well. [Goddess Phoenix is worth it]
I agree that silver medal sticker looked great on the printed copy. If you only did it for the demo one you might want to consider getting more stickers and applying them to the rest of your inventory of that book. And congrats once again on the award. [Thanks… if only I DID do that for all of my inventory!]
OMG, you and Thomas and the puns. Puns should be their own category of torture. And it shows you don’t always need paddles or canes to torment people. [HA]
Great recaps by sep, especially that one on the corset. I had no idea there were so many potenitally dangerous implications to them, I thought they were just occasionally pretty uncomfortable. [And this is why I do DomCon reviews! Thanks again to sep!]
I stopped by the Serenity booth briefly. Thanks to your great article, though, I now realize they are about so much more [than just a dungeon]. I really like their community approach and methods to try to make newbies feel more comfortable and welcome. I wish them great success and hope others will adopt a similar model to encourage less gatekeeping, more community, and more safety within the community. I don’t usually follow dungeons far from where I live but I’ve just made an exception for them. Thanks for providing their FL info. [You’re welcome, and I agree this is a great model to emulate]
Send me your comments, and I’ll put them in the next blog post!
DomCon L.A. 2024 Third Review
If you missed the first two reviews, you can find them here:
First DomCon L.A. Review
Second DomCon L.A. Review
I will start with some cute stories. You may remember the staff from last year loved to clean, and often it took a horde of workers to change a garbage bag in the vending area… as they gawked. [Check out my blog archives in June of 2023]
This year several corporate workers walked the vending area. One of them was Jeff, the new general manager of the Airport Hilton. I greeted him every time, and he remembered my name when we rode the elevator with him.
Jeff was super nice and freely talked about having handled several kink shows in D.C. hotels. I put him on the spot by asking what stood out. He took a moment before saying, “I’m amazed by the craftsmanship, quality and creativity” of so many items. Jeff was quick to add that he doesn’t know what most of it is for, and he doesn’t need to. He held up his hands and smiled, and said there’s no judgment.
Mistress Olivia had a sub buy her two of my books. When she got her gift, which was Chip Clips (not to be confused with anything else), she immediately said, “I’ll find a pair of balls to put these on!” If you’d like to know more about Mistress Olivia, see my blog archive in August of 2023.
There was a cute couple who shopped my booth who live apart. One of the things they will do is read to each other over the phone, so they got two copies of several books… and I can’t wait for feedback!
Speaking of customers, if you purchased books at DomCon LA, you should have received an email with your coupon codes for your free digital versions. Reminder, that coupon expires on July 5th, so make sure you download your books soon!
Classes
Violet Wand – I Do What with Electricity? by Traveling Fool
I met Traveling Fool on the first day but I’m pretty sure we met last year, too. He is a quiet and unassuming man, happy to walk by unnoticed and equally happy to engage. Once you talk to him, his smile infects you. An easy conversationalist, Traveling Fool or Jay immediately shares his intellect and wit.
Jay’s idea for a safeword is “I love pussy”… which he used with a gay guy. *GRIN*
So when I saw Jay was teaching the Violet Wand class and it was right next to my booth, I had to go. He started the class by saying, “Fuck PowerPoint.” And went on to explain that you learn from demos.
His visual aide was a female sub, Ginaria, who lay prone on the table throughout the class… and beyond, as Jay allowed people to test for themselves. Of course, he was on hand to ensure people played appropriately and safely.
Jay has been engaging in electro play for 47 years, way before it became popular. Several years ago, he learned how to blow glass. And there was a natural combination of the two. He designs and blows attachments for electro play.
As every skilled kinkster knows, safety is important; and Jay is no different. He held up a wand and said, “This does not go in the bathtub.” People laughed, and Jay admitted it’s funny but also serious because someone will do it.
He also warns if the device is broken, has marks on it, or the wires are frayed–don’t use it.
A final explanation was that even though he has played a lot with his sub and they know each other well, he still checks in with her. Safety is important. And there should be no short-cutting it.
Jay freely admits to being kinky and a switch. However, don’t try to electro play with him as a bottom. He doesn’t go that way.
Most people are familiar with a TENS unit; the electric device to stimulate and alleviate muscle pain. Jay has some tips for you. Put one electrode on top of a nipple, and one on the bottom–perfection. Or, put one on your taint and one around your dick, and it’ll feel like you’re being jerked off. For girls, make a circular shape inside, and it feels like a pulse.
Don’t go play just yet; we’ve got a lot more to cover!
The Violet Wand was originally called Violet Ray and was created by Nikola Tesla, or the science of it. Between 1900-1940 it was the “replacement for the medicine man” because it was believed that electricity could cure everything. There were ads that your eyesight would get better, you could grow hair, clear sinuses–with the nose electrode.
He showed us 106-year-old hairbrush and said its claim was you will grow hair back. In actuality, it gets rid of lice.
There are traditional wands, like the DD10. It comes with a warning of high voltage presented at the electrode; do not come in contact with electrode. So, you can’t tell the manufacturer why you want to buy it because they won’t sell it.
The biggest complaint with it is it wasn’t strong enough. No problem if you use conductive silicon, says Jay. Put a pad down and have the sub lay in it, and you will be happy. Want more info on where to purchase gadgets? He’s on FL as travelingfool.
Jay’s wand has a foot switch. It’s metal. You can get it at Dom Depot (what he smirkingly calls Home Depot), and Harbor Freight has it in plastic. You can control the device with your foot instead of having to it turn on and off. Warning–don’t buy the metal switch if you play at home, because when you put your foot on it, you’ll know. Same with a metal bed frame; you do it once, and you’ll never do it again.
The capacitor is what provides the output. Traditional is 35k-40k volts. It takes millions to kill you. Typically, you use 45-50k, and high as 55k. You can get redness like a sunburn, so be careful.
Jay told us that he does not play with the face or arms. Why? Because in the morning, you don’t want to be red and white.
He hears a lot of complaints that “my wand doesn’t work.” And his first question is, if you hold it straight up in the air, does it work? If the answer is yes, he says, “you don’t know how to use it.”
Pro tip: The wand needs lateral motions to work, so don’t hold it face-down.
Can you play with a wand on someone who has a pacemaker? Jay chooses not to and says you have to find your comfort level. He won’t because it means they have other medical conditions that he doesn’t want to deal with.
An example of Jay’s playfulness is a paddle with holes. He held one up and said he likes to dip it in bubble water to blow bubbles before the impact. *grin*
If you want the freedom to walk around while you’re playing, use a conductor mat under the sub. It doesn’t change the power level, but it is more intense. However, the sub is now charged and can touch the dom. “Sharing is caring,” Jay says with a smile.
Mylar is conductive, and Jay spoke about the fun with pompoms, which you can get at a dollar store.
With the dollar store in mind, Jay advised to go to your kitchen drawer. Mini whisk, ice cream scoop, pizza cutter… all of these are good conductors.
Carbon fiber conducts electricity. Like a knife or a Wartenberg Wheel.
You can cup with a Violet Wand (cupping). Put mylar in the cup, and everything in the cup will be electrified because the air goes out when you affix. You can also use tinsel! Lay it over a sub, touch the wand, and it will travel throughout the body.
There are mylar happy birthday balloons. Put them all over the body, then use tweezers to pull off mylar. If you move the mylar, you get spanked. If you pull it off without moving, great. You can also use dice for how many times you get spanked if you move it.
An Edison adapter means any light bulb with something in it becomes a violet wand toy. And it’s intense.
Insertables–if you don’t know where they come from, don’t use ‘em. Most products from overseas use glass but Jay advises to use quartz. Quartz won’t break inside.
The class was full of jokes and clever ideas, and there was never any doubt that Jay knew what he was doing, and would always be safe. He passed out a scene negotiation guide but I didn’t get his permission to republish. It did, however, include aftercare for the top!
To Jay: I loved the class and getting to know you; and I hope to see you at Naughty Noel!
Humiliation & Degradation: Shaming the Ones You Love by Master Plain Jane
MP’s perspective
The Legends panel ran a bit long, and I wasn’t going to walk out of a session featuring dominants with decades of experience and stories. I was therefore late for this class.
Master Plain Jane said while you may say or think you don’t like some activity, sometimes your body gives away your true desires. The example was a male who claims he hates to suck cock but is also erect while he is doing so. [In the real, non-fantasy world the sub still needs to consent to being open to the activity.]
The instructor also said that all parties need to consent to what’s going on. That includes the dominant(s) and any assistants used in the scene.
Master Plain Jane says that the easiest way to negotiate humiliation play is to ask for it and to try to be specific. She added to ask about the experience with this type of play as that may affect the negotiation.
Also, a reminder from me, just because one party is older than the other(s) does not necessarily mean they have more experience. Many people explore kink later in life while others start quite early.
Going further, the instructor recommends that the potential play partners discuss what Humiliation, Degradation, and other terms, mean to THEM along with related activities, plus yummy ‘hot buttons’ or triggers the sub may have. The dominant should ideally share her own triggers rather than just skip or ignore them, so the sub knows not to expect or hope for them.
Also, if there are specific terms or names the sub would like to be called, such as ‘slut’, discuss what they mean to them and how they think someone like that acts so the dom/me(s) can act appropriately.
Sometimes during a scene, you realize that some things aren’t as hot as you thought they would be. If the activity will be over soon, you could wait it out. Or, you could create a special safeword beforehand to indicate the dominant should try something else. This is a way to communicate without coming out of the scene or head space.
Master Plain Jane said that triggers are not a bad thing. Communicate them so they can be avoided. Again, this is something that goes both ways. Triggers could be specific terms, a specific activity or implement, maybe even a tone of voice or style of speaking.
The instructor said aftercare should be negotiated beforehand and may need to be based or altered depending on the type of play. She added that one of the goals of aftercare is to restore the sub to being the person they were before the play began.
She also advised doing a debrief after the scene. It could be either written – dominants might want to prepare a template to make sure everything is covered – or spoken. Some may want to do it right after the scene while others may need to wait a few hours or days so they can restore their fluids, normalize their hormone levels, and to process or perhaps rest first.
If you enjoyed the scene, make sure you communicate that, too.
How long should the debrief be? It depends. If it will take hours, it may be best to do it offline via an email to be read later.
Dominants should also tell the sub what they really liked, as the sub is likely to be more comfortable with that aspect and to do it more.
Master Plain Jane recommends doing such a debrief after every session, especially early on. You may both learn about new hot buttons, triggers, and/or ‘mehs’ along the way or perhaps a different approach. She also advises praising and useful feedback.
Since this was an event somewhat created for pro dominants, she recommended NOT charging for the debrief as it gives you valuable information to improve either with this client, this type of play, or overall.
A couple of other tips:
Start slow, ratchet things up if the low level things work. I would add that this can be tricky as sometimes low level things don’t work because they are not intense enough for the sub, similar to how a light tap on the butt may not do anything for an impact player who prefers a good smack.
Remember the power of words. The right ones can send someone right where you want, the wrong ones – or sometimes the right words with the wrong tone or attitude – can send them into a bad place that might be hard to recover from or that may result in stopping the scene entirely.
Remember something as simple as shushing or ignoring can be humiliating.
Do not shame people for having an emotional response to a scene. You’re mainly dealing with the mind and feelings, even if the humiliating acts are physical.
She also listed some of the most popular types of humiliation play:
1. Ash service (usually from cigarettes or cigars)
2. Begging
3. Watching or catching the sub masturbating, or making them masturbate
4. Bodily (something) – sorry, I missed part of this but one example was spitting so I’m guessing it was bodily fluids, or maybe bodily disrespect, which could also include spanking, groping, etc.
5. Making the sub verbalize. Maybe confessing fantasies or past deeds, saying childish or humiliating things or mantras, etc.
6. Playing games: The games could be humiliating or maybe it involves bragging rights or winning money from the sub.
Finally, she asked why do people engage in this type of play? Because people find these things fun and hot.
Thanks, MP! Well done and informative.
Mind Play: Getting In Their Head by Master Nicholas
Sep’s Perspective
This class was absolutely packed; people sitting in the aisles and standing everywhere.
Master Nicholas has been based in LA since 2017 and is a CIS gender dominant, He/Him. He is NOT a physical top, nor into impact play.
In mental play, Master Nicholas described four elements: (1) Head space, (2) Sub space, (3) Dom space, and (4) Power exchange. Head space was described as how you perceive the world around you in your current environment. One needs to decide which version one wants to be. Tools in a mental play scene can be emotional sadism that degrades or shames the submissive, or status sadism, that induces inferiority in the submissive. Status submissive doesn’t necessarily make the submissive feel badly about themselves. An example would be, “You’re the best foot stool I’ve ever had.”
Master Nicholas explained the importance of planning the beginning, middle, and end
of your scene ahead of time, and leaving room for improvisation (another class I attended). In the beginning, you should shift your submissive’s head space. The middle should be comprised of intense action, and you should always save the best for last, then bring your sub back down to earth. Transitioning between your planned beginning, middle, and end should happen organically, and this is where the improv comes in as you adapt to how it is actually playing out.
A mental play dominant should vary the intensity of play and keep the sub off balance. Pay attention to the sub closely to see if they are enjoying the current “activity”. Allow your sub to voice enjoyment. Enable them. Use charging to engage your sub with what you are thinking.
Examples of charging are (1) say a simple chair is your throne as you take a commanding seat, (2) “I’m right-handed, you’re my tool. Come sit on my right.” Expand the meaning of your sub’s space by charging items in your environment or the sub themselves.
You can also use reinforcing. An example would be, “Did you just lick my toes? I
think that’s the most disgusting thing I’ve ever seen.” The sub could use reinforcing as well: “I’m just your foot stool, Master.”
One must be wary of triggering your sub. It’s much easier to trigger someone mentally than physically. I’m not sure I buy that myself. I think it’s equally easy. Maybe what Master Nicholas meant was it’s harder to avoid triggering someone mentally than it is to avoid triggering someone physically. I shouldn’t be putting words into his mouth. Let’s just go with I was unclear on his meaning and am just sharing my thoughts on the matter.
Both Dom and sub can be triggered and both Dom and sub should be aware of each other’s triggers. If someone is triggered, play should be stopped immediately.
Master Nicholas ended his presentation with examples of mental play.
Clothed Top, Naked Bottom
Groveling, worshipping, praising
Degradation – typically one on one, licking and verbal cues that go along with the act
Humiliation – typically public in some way, whether it’s exposure to an outsider in a
private space or actually in a public space
Service
Objectification
Bimbofication
Hypnosis
Thanks, sep! I like that you shared your thoughts.
Improv for Kinky People by Mistress DiamondBlu
Sep’s Perspective
I knew I was going to have to leave this class early to meet Mistress B.J. for the Legends Panel, so I asked permission of a most gracious Mistress DiamondBlu and took a seat near the door.
Mistress DiamondBlu is from Montreal and walked to LA to present her class at Domcon. No, not really. Geez (no, I’m not from Minnesota). She is an improviser, stand-up comedian, and a killer cookie maker. She has been a pro-domme for 6 years and was trained in a very structured domination style. First you do this, then you do this, then you do exactly this, etc…
She expressed that it took her a while to bring her comedy improv into the world of kink.
Mistress stressed that the most important aspect in improv is to get out of your head and into the present physical and mental scene. The origins of improv began with children who spoke different languages. One should strive to release their inner child, without judgment or fear of judgment. Build something in a scene from nothing… e.g. – use a scarf and a playground slide to imagine you are climbing Mount Everest.
Improv is being taught in prisons to help rehab people to get through difficult situations. Use your imagination and be fluid in the moment. As your partner contributes to the scene change, go with it without judgment. Trust. Make yourself happy and don’t be afraid to explore. There are no mistakes. Just circumstances you move away from and those you embrace.
Learn from your discoveries as each new idea pops into your mind and scene. Take note of things you and your partner respond well to and draw from these discoveries when engaging in future scenes. Try things like, use intense bondage, but then add tickling and check for your partner’s response and where the tickling takes you.
Get inspired by anything present in the scene, be it a thing, a reaction, or something said. Engaging in this type of play creates a spiritual connection. Improv can release you from inner demons and allow you to be playful in your kink. Example… Tina Fey says yes to everything… “Would you like this gun? Yes, it’s the gun I gave you for your bar mitzvah.” Saying yes can push you into unexpected places.
Inspire your sub to not be passive. Mistress DiamondBlu had us engage in exercises.
Pass the Clap
Maintain awareness so you can see when someone is directing a clap at you and you can pass it to someone else. No hesitation. This helps you practice being
aware, being able to receive, and being able to give. The entire class made concentric circles and passed the clap.
Magic Ball
You start with an imaginary ball and, as you pass it to the next person, miming, they transform the ball into something else and pass it to the next person and so forth…
These Are Five Things
Start with a seed statement. List five things that…. Then the selected person recites the first five things that come to mind. If they say, “uhhh”, THAT COUNTS! And everyone says, “ONE!!!”, the second thing, “TWO!!!”. When they recite the fifth thing, “THESE ARE FIVE THINGS!!!”
Mistress gave us lessons in being playful, free, child-like, imaginative. It was an absolute blast to just let go and participate with so many people. Mistress DiamondBlu is awesome!
She started a discussion of a Venn diagram showing the crossovers between Improv and BDSM. We started by creating lists of things in kink:
Consent
Trigger Discussions
Intimacy
Base for a scene
Play
Tools
Curiosity
Empathy
Risk
Then we had a quick list of Hierarchy and archetypes in famous people:
Hillary Clinton – power, confidence, leadership, ability to think under pressure, poise
Other examples of these traits
o Michelle Obama
o Henry Cavill
o Cleopatra
o Jason Momoa
o Napoleon
Bottoms
o Renfield – receptive, soft spoken, trusting, obedient
o Lil Nal
o Patrick Starrr
o Peter Pettigrew
o Jimmy Fallon
Switches
o Hudrick Hall – versatility, bring pleasure and receive pleasure
o Superman
o Donald Trump
o Homelander
Regretfully, I had to leave before I found out where she was going with this. Luckily,
MultiPerv was in this class as well.
Thanks, sep! I’m sorry I missed this one. If you want to read MP’s perspective, check out my previous blog.
Interview with Master “Reverend” Gear
The Reverend uses they pronouns and identifies as a bisexual switch. They jovially answered questions, often accompanied with a giggle and/or a smirk. When did they know they were kinky? At three! And they have specific examples.
The first instance was when they did outlining feet, with a pen, like tracing the other person’s foot. It got burned in their head because they thought feet were pretty.
The other instance was on career day. A police officer came in, and the kids asked him to show his gun and baton. Then he took out handcuffs and demonstrated on his daughter. The Reverend was confused about why their pants were so tight. That’s when they knew, “there was something different about me.”
Their first kinky experience was when they lost their virginity at 14. Their girlfriend wanted to be kinky, so they chained her wrist together in front of her, and “we lost our virginity in a community pool bathroom together.”
From there, Master Gear watched Hollywood media, and a lot of old school Adam West Batman. It was exciting. Merge that with watching HBO specials… sneaking out to watch after the parents went to sleep.
After they graduated high school, they found the scene by accident. The Reverend was in a random chatroom, complaining that they can’t find kinky people. The response was, “you’re in LA; you’re not looking hard enough.” Then a domme from Australia mentioned FetLife and told him to “go forth and be kinky.”
A week later, they went to a dungeon for the first time. Master Gear admits to “thinking I was gonna be a 21-year-old master after having been on FetLife for a week.” They also admit, “it was clear I didn’t know what I was doing.”
After thinking about things, they realized that they should take classes, and they shouldn’t be a dom for a while. So Master Gear started as a sub, and they met Master Gabriel. [see my first DomCon LA review]
At the time, Master Gabriel was making implement toys and selling at DomCon. Master Gear said I’ve got selling experience, and I want to help you sell. So they formed a bond, and they learned under Master Gabriel. That continued until 2019, when the Reverend received their master’s cover at DomCon… which is a mirror on a leatherman’s cap. It’s a symbol that one has mastered oneself and is working with the community and to better the community. It also entails educating others as well as yourself constantly. Master Gear said, “I still have to continue to earn that right to continue wearing it.”
They were in an elevator with Mistress Precious [interview in the next review post!] after they had done a stage scene as the Reverend. Mistress Precious told them, “I love your voice… if you did a podcast, I’d hear that.” That was when Kinky AF the podcast was born.
The Reverend says it was an excuse to go outside of their own bubble and learn from other people. They said the interviews were like one-on-one classes for them, and they were learning at the same time.
Where does “The Reverend” come from? Master Gear grew up religious. They’re not sure whether the family knows, and they don’t discuss it. Upon reflection, they said, they have their blood family and their chosen family. They are separate but equal. When Master Gear and their wife is around family, she says “my love” as the honorific instead of sir.
The Reverend stems from some church trauma. However, it’s far from serious or heavy in practice. For example, Master Gear does exorcism scenes with as much humor as possible. They call it a “Bapgism”… but when I typed it, I added a T, and they said that was better… so it’s a “Baptgism”.
They did another scene with a nun, where the Reverend punished her for not sinning enough. They smacked her with a cross paddle. They’d say, “Be gay, do crimes instead of hail Marys.”
As head of their own household [see the write-up about the class on Houses in my first DomCon review post], they have a collared slave who knows they switch and isn’t weirded out. A lot of people find it strange that a dominant head of household indulges in chastity and question, are you really a true master? Master Gear’s response is to laugh and say, “I’m dominant enough to know what I like, and I’ll do what the fuck I want.”
They add that once in a while, they get a craving for it. So they indulge. The Reverend will wear a cage for a week or a day, saying it’s the feeling that draws you. They enjoy the ongoing frustration and ongoing intrigue and foreplay.
Master Gear’s advice to newbies. Going to a convention alone is a daunting task. Try to reach out beforehand or attend the early bird social. Ultimately, you need to be okay with being solo or being swept up in a new crew.
To Master “Reverend” Gear: I so enjoyed getting to know you more this year! I look forward to feedback, you voicing some of my gay stories, and being a guest on your podcast, once you return to it. And of course, I look forward to spending more time with you at the next DomCon!
Preview of Things to Come
Aliotta’s
Sep’s leaving the booth
Play Party
Classes:
Legends Panel
Scent Play
Social Media and More for Beginners
Smothering and Ass Domination
Interviews:
Mistress Precious
And more!
Have a great weekend. I look forward to your comments!
B.J.’s Online Book Club
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