Reviews
Thank you to everyone who diligently writes reviews after reading my books. You have gotten me over 300 reviews! Please keep them coming.
Reviews are important because they may push other would-be readers to buy a book. Plus, let’s face it, we live in a numbers world. The more reviews a reader sees, the more likely he may be to buy. So please don’t forget to write a review.
The best place is Goodreads. However, I’d also love for you to copy and paste your reviews if you purchased somewhere other than my site, too.
Did you read a book a while ago and forgot to leave a review? Not to worry because you can do it now. Goodreads doesn’t care about the span of time between finishing a book and leaving a review.
And here’s the best reason to leave a review: I’m a feedback whore! So feed into my whorishness and leave a review.
Another way to get numbers up is to “like” and/or comment on other people’s reviews. If you go to leave a review on a book that has other reviews, please take the time to read them and “like” them.
The more reviews you write, the quicker you’ll get me to 400. I thank you in advance. 🙂
These are comments you had from the last blog post.
submissiveforDomme ~ I’m kind of partial to these titles: “The Gathering” because that’s what it is and it’s mysterious enough that it could include anything. “Dommes Love L.A.” because the inference is always in L.A. “Dommes in La-La land” assuming it’s a reference to L.A. “Domme Con: x”. The trilogy is a little weak as titles go. I’d like it if it was a documentary or a telling of actual real events and not a fictionalization of events. The Society is also good if the book is pretending the conference is for Dommes only. [Thanks for the input, sfD!]
toymax ~ The Trilogy Update: Haha – the Dragnet theme title is awesome, but for an obvious reason my choice is: “DommeCon: Where Women are Women and Men are Their Toys”. The connection to the real DomCon and Mistress Cyan makes it even more exciting – which is exactly what I am. [I’m glad, Max! I am, too!]
The Big Game: I didn’t watch the game and I first thought I won’t write any comment on it, but when I saw the result the next morning, I couldn’t believe my eyes. Poor green boys. [So true. *heavy sigh* They need some major restructuring. Until then, many thanks to LeftField, who sent me this video: https://youtu.be/NQm2YXqkmAQ]
The Q/A: I read and liked the follow-up as well. And I’m very excited about the update. [Thanks for reminding me, Max! I’m not sure when it was going to happen but I’ll update as soon as I can]
I’m looking forward to reading about Your experiences at DomCon Nola. It’s always a great pleasure. DomCon is far away for me, but it makes me feel like I took part – at least a bit. 🙂 [The first one is only a few sections away! :)]
rubbug ~ I didn’t realize Dom Con was so close! That’s cool, and you have a little crew with you too! [Little crew with a HUGE heart!!]
Maelstrom Mischief is a solid title the trilogy, Maybe having subtitles between them could be cool too? [I haven’t decided… maybe?]
Multiperv ~ I liked your psychological conditioning in your response to Nerts2u “Nothing dangerous about it: It’s so FUN and HOT”. (readers chanting) “Yes, Mistress BJ, it is FUN and HOT.” And I agree, a femdom sci-fi set soap opera? I’m there! [Cool! Rubbug and I have made some progress on images for the cover]
DommeCon: Where Women are Women and Men Are Their Toys – pretty good though a bit long and I don’t think the DomCon people would like the different spelling [Thanks for all your comments on the titles; nothing is settled]
Tell me what you think of this post, and you’ll see your comment in the next one!
Eli Receives Another Five-Star Review!
You’ve heard me say that the “Eli” series is *so good* EVEN if you’re not gay. Don’t take it from me. The series has several five-star reviews.
The latest is from reviewer Sally Bend, which you can read on her blog.
I told her that she does a nice job of not including spoilers in her reviews. She responded:
It’s so hard, especially 3 books in! It’s not like reviewing a mass market book where fans have read the first 2 and have been awaiting the 3rd for a year or more – I know that if I present it well, I have a chance to get readers to go back and pick up all 3.
So take it from Sally… if you haven’t started the series yet, go back and pick up all three!
While you’re at it, get the entire series. You can thank me when you finish. *grin*
I had the pleasure of beta reading Mike Bowerbank’s latest novel last month, “The Hopeless Cases”. It follows his wonderful cast of characters and places the reader in another interesting mystery.
Mike writes with dry and slapstick humor (puns included), interspersed with life’s commentaries while enmeshed in a whodunit.
Read my five-star review, and read the book!
Trilogy Update
Multiperv suggested I make a Trilogy ‘prep guide’ or cheat sheet. He asked for a list of the books that are the background so people can start doing their prep reading now before the first book release.
First, I’ve written it so that people don’t have to read any or all of my books in order to enjoy the Trilogy on its own.
Second, for those over-achievers who wish to read, the books included are (in alphabetical order):
14-Day Lockdown with Goddess Serena
A Domme for Christmas
Best Served Cold
Eli
He Wanted It
Her Wish. His Command.
I Blame Quentin Tarantino
It Wasn’t What I Wanted
Mistress Managed
The Perchance to Dream series, including Lorenzo’s Story 1 and 2
The Service Sub
I will complete the draft for Book Two by this weekend. Writing the Trilogy and being at DomCon was a bit surreal. But in a good way. 🙂
This just in: Mistress Cyan would like the DomCon logo to be on the Trilogy book covers, and she will send me a high resolution image for the artwork! I’m so excited!
You voted “The Lesson” as the next Book Club Book! Thanks for your votes.
We will discuss it on Saturday, November 4, 2023 at 4p, Eastern.
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DomCon NOLA 2023 ~ The First Review
I can’t say enough about this con. I’m amazed by how welcoming everyone is, how I meet cool and interesting new people every time, and how good it is to reconnect with friends!
My snapshot preview contains: Mistress Cyan, Mistress Mia, Porsche Lynn, Kendra James, Liz River, Master Jim, Trent, Danny, and more!
Let me back up, though. I was excited to meet Multiperv and sizeerrorprojection (MP and SEP) but I first needed to get my bag. It’s a large purple one, if you couldn’t guess. And there was one waiting for me on the turnstile but it wasn’t mine. It *looked* like mine, and I checked it three times.
I called a worker over to say, “I have a sneaking suspicion that the person who owns this purple suitcase took mine by mistake.” She didn’t ask me for my claim check, my name; nothing. She grabbed the bag, pulled the UPC sticker and said she’d call the person.
A short while later, she returned and said I was right. She called the woman and asked if she got her bag. The woman assured her that she had. And the worker said, “Well, you didn’t. I’ve got your bag right here, and the one you have belongs to someone else.”
The woman returned with my bag a few minutes later, declaring my bag to be lighter than hers. It wasn’t but perhaps that justified the lack of an apology. I didn’t point out that mine had a yellow twist-tie to distinguish it.
With the proper bag, Claire and I went outside and were soon picked up by MP and SEP. MP and I had previously planned a surprise visit to “my” intersection of Napoleon and Tonti; the corner where Goddess Serena from “14-Day Lockdown with Goddess Serena” resides. It seemed that it was fun for MP and me…
Next, we delivered booth stuff and registered. There, I saw Mistresses Cyan and Mia and got hugs from both. I got to introduce them to first-time kink convention goer, SEP. I also got a big hug from Master Jim, and I said hello to Jabber and Miss Wet.
We took off for lunch, came back to set up, then went to crash at the Airbnb. I’ll go through our NOLA adventures outside of the con and everything in it later. But first…
Multiperv is Multi-faceted
There will be emphasis in these reviews about SEP’s first time. While that’s important, I don’t want it to overshadow MP, especially since he’s easy to tease. 🙂
MP has a bag of goodies that is a seemingly never-ending source of “yeah, I have that!” to whatever we need. Claire and I first were introduced to this bag in Austin at the GWNN Bash 2022. She had asked him if he had any tape, and he said, “Sure, what kind do you want; Scotch, masking, duct, or electrical?” We kid him about it but we also heavily rely on him for it.
Those of you who vote in my Creative Surveys know that MP is usually first to vote. But you may not know that he goes out of his way to queue his response so it gets the most exposure in bdsmlr, and he generally provides encouragement to get newbies to participate.
He was supposed to drive seven hours to get to DomCon but got caught in a huge traffic jam that not only slowed him down but had him stopped for an hour, and that drive turned into nearly 14. But he was awake and smiling at the airport to pick us up.
MP also scans class descriptions and flags the ones he thinks I’d be interested in. He even put me on his Google Calendar, and his optimism is ever-present that I’ll use it one day. I will not. *grin* I rely on MP to tell me when classes are coming up and where they’re located. It’s one less thing I have to do. And I appreciate him so much!
He’s also well-informed about protocol, and is very much in tune with people’s feelings. And he and SEP got us lunch every day.
I am proud to call him my friend, and eternally grateful that he got me to my first convention. MP ~ I can’t thank you enough! *hugs*
The Booth
My booth was next to The Kink Shop and across from Leather by Danny, and the three of us (Jessi, too!) got to know each other better. Multiperv had introduced me to Danny in cyberspace before last year’s DomCon NOLA. And I met Trent last year and briefly in LA. More on them in future reviews.
Here’s my booth, which was also across from the stage, so we had great seats for the demonstrations and competitions!
Once we had it set up, we were all set to sell-sell-sell 😀
NOLA Dining
Two Chicks Café
Our first adventure was at the Two Chicks Café, which was in [sweltering] walking distance to the hotel. It was a cute, little place that was filled with movement. Aside from Claire’s smoothie, we all had delicious meals. It was a great way to start a weekend palette of yummy tastes.
Cochon
CochonClaire sat this one out, and she missed an amazing experience. Rubbug has been telling me for a while that I have to try meat pies, and there was an appetizer on the menu. So I told MP and SEP that we had to taste it in honor of rubbug.
When the meat pie arrived, I had to take a picture to prove it to rubbug… despite a lengthy conversation at lunch denigrating people who take pictures of their food. We all tasted it and declared it to be marvelous. Then I got a text from rubbug asking me what it was. ?!
Apparently, it’s a *beef patty* I’m supposed to try! But the meat pie was scrumptious, and my mouth is watering as I type.
Mother’s Restaurant
Mother’s is a staple in New Orleans. Usually with a line out the door, its cafeteria-style ordering makes the line move quickly. We lucked out and were able to walk right in… and set a trend because the line followed us.
The food was delicious. There were celebrity pictures on the walls, and it felt like we were experiencing a piece of history.
Café Du Monde
Café Du MondeYou can’t go to New Orleans without enjoying a beignet from Café Du Monde–except for last year, so I was not going to repeat the oversight. Between vending Saturday and our concert, we stopped for a snack to tide us over until dinner.
Sinfully good, Claire and I showed extreme willpower by only consuming one, though we each wanted to converge upon the kitchen and inhale mass quantities. The boys had a second one.
It was sitting in the iconic café that we learned Matthew Perry had died. 🙁
GW Fins
The place was packed at 10:00 at night, which was no surprise when we first bit into the warm, homemade, buttery biscuits. Talk about melting in your mouth!
All of our meals were tasty and prompted much moaning… truly a meal fit for DomCon *grin*
All of our dining experiences were divine, even lunch from Subway. And a huge shoutout to the volunteers at DomCon for having yummy spreads, keeping the vendors happy, fed and hydrated during the eight-hour days.
Preservation Hall
SEP and MP are connoisseurs of live music, and SEP plays the piano. High on my list of things to do this year was to hear live jazz. SEP had been to this place before and recommended it. They play music like they used to without 
microphones and modern amenities, like A/C!!
The room is tiny, so the shows are only 20 minutes, with each group filtering out as the next one moves in. Compact, sweltering and standing didn’t detract from the incredible performance of the six-man band. Well, seven, if you count “Phillip de Bucket”.
This was also the night that we did the most walking, and Claire was a trooper, having dislocated her toe the night before on the corner of the ottoman. It was sticking out at a 90-degree angle, and she pushed it back in. Nurse on Monday told her she did an excellent job!
Huge thanks to SEP for treating us all to the tickets and an amazing sound.
Award
This is normally the place where I’d tell you about the Red Carpet Social and the Opening Ceremony. Due to a medical emergency that wasn’t life-threatening, thank goodness, I made the call to head back “home” instead of going to these events. Fear not, though, because the story has a happy ending.
Friday morning shortly after the vending area opened, Miss Emily and Mistress Jackie told me that I’d won an award at the Opening Ceremony. A few minutes later, another vendor had told me the same thing.
I found Mistress Cyan in the vending area and thanked her while apologizing and explaining that we had a medical emergency. She was gracious, as always, and said she was glad that I took care of the person. She’d rather that have happened than pushing things, and having it result in an even more dire situation at the Opening Ceremony. She also said she understood now, because she was pretty sure I had told her I was definitely going to be at the Opening Ceremony–which was the plan!
Mistress Cyan explained that Ms. Velvet had been a vendor who wholeheartedly supported the BDSM community and was a ray of sunshine in the vending area. When she passed, Mistress Cyan created an award in her honor to recognize future vendors who displayed her same acceptance, exuberance and non-judgmental attitude.
She said Mistress Mia accepted the award on my behalf and would bring it to me at some point during the weekend.
I was disappointed that I didn’t get the full experience of the award but I was also pretty shocked and amazed to be so honored! I raced back to the booth to tell Claire… and also to warn me if she saw Mistress Mia. I didn’t want MP or SEP to know because I didn’t want them to feel badly about missing it.
Saturday afternoon I saw Mistress Mia walking down the aisle holding a plaque. I ushered her into the hall. Keep in mind Mistress Mia is a 6’3 dominatrix and usually in heels. She tried to explain about the plaque, but I kept shooing. Relenting, she said, “Okay, okay, I’m goin’.”
[If you missed my interview with Mistress Mia last year, here’s your link]
Once in the hall, I explained why I wasn’t at the Opening Ceremony. And she said absolutely the focus has to be on health. She further said the plaque didn’t mean anything, and it was only wood and metal. I corrected her and said it was so much more because of the sentiment behind it, and that I was really bummed I didn’t get to experience the presentation.
She tried to get me back to the booth but I told her I didn’t want to ruin the weekend for MP and SEP. So she pulled her domme voice and stare, and I returned to the booth.
Mistress Mia did an impromptu presentation that was recorded by Carol, Mistress Cyan’s longtime sub. When I saw the setup I got emotional. Mistress Mia asked, “Are you crying?”
“I’m a bit overwhelmed, yeah.”
“Well, get it outta your eyes. Even though this isn’t being filmed, the tears’ll be heard on the audio.”
So I did my best to suck it up.
When Mistress Mia grabs a mic, sparks fly. She’s got a commanding voice, a happy attitude, and a wicked sense of humor. Underneath it all, she’s a caring person, and her presentation of the award made me feel warm and fuzzy. I saw Claire and SEP in the background with tears in their eyes. I was given the mic but the sparks remained with Mistress Mia.
I’m not sure what I said or even whether I made sense, but I know I forgot to thank Mistress Cyan. Doh! I’m glad it was recorded so I can hear it again, though I know I’ll also want to edit the crap out of my speech! *grin*
The plaque reads:
DOMCON NEW ORLEANS
Proudly Presents
B. J. FRAZIER PUBLICATIONS
The DomCon New Orleans
2023 Recipient of
Ms Velvet Memorial AwardIn appreciation for their contributions and support of the BDSM, Fetish and Leather Communities.
Celebrating 20 Years
October 26-29, 2023
The plaque was prominently displayed on my table, and someone asked to take a picture of it!
As for the audio presentation, it was a new thing for DomCon. They had interviewed all of the vendors, but they’re not sure where they’re going to house it. When I find out, I will link you.
The award is huge, for sure, and I’m beyond touched. But I’d be remiss if I didn’t point out that the things I preach in my books about protocol, health and safety *and* the things that are attributed in spades to every class I’ve attended and every interview I held were demonstrated as second nature when I explained why I wasn’t at Opening Ceremony.
Both Mistress Cyan and Mistress Mia immediately understood and reiterated that health comes first. Period. End of discussion. And even though I would’ve loved to have been present for the actual award, I wouldn’t’ve changed my decision. Period. End of discussion.
And, thanks to Mistress Mia, I was able to experience it with my close group of supporters. Thank you to DomCon, to Mistress Mia, to everyone I’ve met, and, especially, a huge thank you to Mistress Cyan.
Master Jim Follow-up
I had the pleasure of getting to know Master Jim in LA. If you missed the interview, here’s your link.
The first person I saw in the vending area was Master Jim. I called to him, and he walked toward me with a smile. He gave me a tight hug and whispered thanks for the wonderful piece I did on him, and I told him that I had great subject matter.
We walked to the booth arm-in-arm, and I introduced him to SEP. I presented Master Jim, and SEP said he knew who he was because he’d read about him in my previous DomCon review. As they shook hands, I told Master Jim that it was SEP’s first kink convention ever.
The men talked for a little while. Then SEP said, “I’m sorry, could you tell me what your name is?” I reintroduced Jim and mentioned the previous blog posts.
Yes, you read that correctly, and I’m cracking up as I type, because this little hiccup of SEP’s was the only thing that gave him away as to how truly overwhelmed he was!! When I talked to him about it later in the weekend, he had no memory. In fact, he was adamant that he did NOT ask for Master Jim’s name because he knew who the man was. When he finally accepted that he had really asked, he admitted to being overwhelmed, adding Master Jim had a piercing gaze that seemed to be able to view SEP’s core.
MP walked in toward the end, and I introduced him. Master Jim took one look at MP and said, “This is not your first convention.” He explained there’s an awe and overwhelming feeling when you first take everything in. He recognized the look in SEP and saw the absence of it in MP.
More on Master Jim during the play party but a quick shoutout to Miss Wet and Good Little Girl!
Paddle
PaddleI’m going to jump ahead because you may have noticed that I have a new avatar. It is my brand new *purple* and black leather paddle, compliments of sizeerrorprojection. I grabbed it from Leather by Danny as a joke to force Danny into an interview, then realized it was a helluva paddle!
I tested it on SEP, who enjoyed it and thought I should have it. Of all my dollar store type toys, I like the paddle I have… but THIS one is so much MORE. It feels great in my hand. It’s purple. One side is padded for a more thuddy experience. Another side is flat for more of an impact. And did I mention it’s purple?? 😀
The only problem with it is–and this is more of MY problem–I can’t get it to size properly to really shine in the stupid avatar box. Maybe toymax will be able to fix it by the time of “print”.
Taking it out of the preciously-wrapped material was captivating for my dogs. That would be actual, four-legged furry guys. Orbit jumped up to get a better view/sniff when I had it in my hand. Then Ledger came to inspect. I don’t have much light today, and I had to lay it on the floor to capture some sun… and fend them off 😀
I’ll take a new pic when it’s lighter because the purple in it really needs to be highlighted–it’s so beautiful!
Thank you, SEP! It was a pleasure to connect with your ass on my virgin use of my new toy! :p
Something New
On my fourth con, I finally figured out that I don’t have to write everything! You can get a different perspective *and* attend more classes with guest writers. Over the course of the other reviews, you’ll hear more from MP and SEP about the classes they attended and their overall thoughts. First up is MP.
My Life as a Booth Babe ~ by Multiperv
This was my second Domcon and third convention with B.J. The vending area felt a little smaller this time but the overall attendance seemed about the same, and the event ran smoother this year.
As for being a booth babe, I don’t know that I qualify for that title as I didn’t spend much time in the booth. This was not to abandon my duties but more because B.J. and Claire have it down to an art, and me throwing a physical wrench by being in their path would not help. Plus, me trying to talk to potential customers when B.J. and Claire already have a tried and tested approach seemed like folly. So I left the sales to them.
Instead, my support role was providing transportation and routing, and also keeping track of the overall schedule as well as classes B.J. might want to attend. I then reminded her about them to minimize disruption to her flow.
I also worked with sizeerrorprojection (SEP) on bringing the booth stuff in and later getting it out, and getting lunch each day so that B.J. and Claire did not have to leave the booth. And I also provided support through my ‘service bag’ where I try to have a bit of anything one might need for various booth-related or general needs. And it was handy on a couple of occasions, when there was a need for Post-It notes, markers, scissors, packing and masking tape, and even some medical tape. It was nice to have it at the ready and not having to go searching or begging for it from other vendors or event management.
There were many highlights for me but one was that B.J., Claire, SEP, and I got along and worked so well together as a team, making it a productive yet fun experience with a good amount of laughter and joy rather than drama. I tend to be shy and awkward, at least at first, so it felt really good to fit into a group and be part of a group and have a purpose or two without wondering what I was doing there. I was also a bit worried with a newcomer in the mix but SEP blended in seamlessly and was quite helpful in several capacities, including driving when I was too tired.
Another big highlight was getting to see SEP experience some kinky firsts, including attending his first convention, his first play party, and his first impact play delivered by another person, which he really enjoyed. He is an agreeable, thoughtful, fun person, who knows, among many other things, how to find and schedule great food options, and I hope all of B.J.’s fans get to meet him at some point.
And that last part also goes for Claire, and of course you already know how great B.J. is, though honestly, you only know part of that. Experiencing it in person is a whole other level.
Thank you, Multiperv… though, I’m suspect as to whether “experiencing it” is positive or negative *grin*
Claire’s Vanilla Corner ~ by Claire
[Multiperv had the awesome idea that you may like to hear some thoughts about DomCon from our resident vanilla chick… who has been quick to point out that, after three cons, she’s not so vanilla anymore!]
From the onset, it was great to see so many familiar faces. And whether or not someone recognized me, once I would say, I met you in LA, there was a spark of recognition of a shared experience.
And that’s what stands out in my mind: the people. Everyone is just so welcoming and enthusiastic and accepting. I felt included. Clearly, I’m categorized as vanilla, and I’m cool with that. But I’m not appalled, and I don’t have any negative feelings about being in the environment or with these people. Overall, it’s a very positive experience.
I’m told that B.J. gets asked whether I now have a leather or latex vest. Not at this time, but thank you for asking.
I watched Danny (Leather by Danny) talk to customers because his booth was across from B.J.’s. He’s sincere, kind, funny, and extremely enthusiastic with his personal demonstrations. *wink wink*
[For a glimpse at Danny in action, check out his YouTube clip]
What started out as a means to explain the importance of demonstrating a toy, Danny wanted to kind of take me by the hand and take me down that path. So he asked if he could tap my forearm with his evil stick or pain stick, which was a very small implement with a very narrow wand-like end. He started down towards my wrist, and, as he tapped, he’d apply more pressure, and I could tell him when to stop. It was based on pain tolerance.
As he’s holding my arm, he asked to pull the sleeve up on my left arm. At that point, he was talking to me, and explaining that the purpose of the pain is to be able to awaken the senses. And then, as he stroked each arm with his fingertips, I understood that heightened sensitivity. I “got” it!
No, I didn’t buy one. But I did proudly show off my marks.
Again, this may not be a path I choose to walk, but I won’t discourage anyone from doing it, and I won’t judge anyone.
While in B.J.’s booth, I had the opportunity to talk to a couple of people who were new to the experience, and I was able to make reading recommendations, and point out that this is part educational. I felt like I was helping make connections with B.J.’s books to people who were just getting into things.
I also felt like a stage mom as I watched B.J. receive her award. I was emotionally overcome with joy for the recognition she received, and I was just so proud of her. I believe in B.J., and I believe that what she’s doing is unique and special and essential.
I think her voice is important, as demonstrated by the award, because her books aren’t all about the fucking. Through her writing, she’s elevating BDSM in that there’s a backstory and there’s people involved and there’s growth and learning and a journey in the writing. And I think that that’s what makes it so special.
I look forward to LA!
Awww, thank you, Claire! And she really did show off her marks and tell us that she understood how pain can be sexualized, sensual and erotic.
7 types of Sissies and How To Train Them – Carli de Ville by sizeerrorprojection
Carli de Ville is a bubbly, happy sexologist and psychotherapist sissy dressed in pink. Carli outlined the topic, stating clearly that “Forced Sissies” would not be covered.
Carli discussed the sissygasm and how to train your sissy by stroking during anal play, never allowing a full orgasm, but sometimes taking them to the point of a ruined one. Gradually, their masturbation is stopped sooner until they no longer need the stroking to cum.
Petticoating Sissy
This type is considered a punishment for men. They must wear the frilliest, brightest silly outfit in all types of environments.
Bedroom Sissy
Also referred to as the Pillow Princess, this sissy responds best to positive affirmation. Photo shoots and social media engagement are a big part of this sissy, and they need to be shown how to pose correctly. They must talk about how much of a sissy they are.
Charm School Sissy
This sissy is VERY excited to learn and require strict structure. They are typically over-the-top gurly girls who wear ruffles, pink, and sometimes vinyl. Training includes walking lessons, makeup, hair, tea party training, and eating instruction. There was much laughter and commentary from the class regarding sloppy eating habits.
Humiliated Sissy
This sissy is a HOT MESS. They’re identified by a terrible wig, bad makeup, and over-the-top garish clothing. Training included personalized makeup, cumming in front of the domme’s friends, photos, nasty gurl, deep throat training, multiple sissies’ competitions. Carli made it clear that each scene should end with positive affirmation.
Subservient Sissy
This sissy aims to please. In other words, this sissy would give up their manhood if the domme demands it. Training includes servitude and reward, bondage, makeup, and kitchen management. They can be selfish, similar to chastity lovers centered on the cage, and should be punished for it. If the sissy doesn’t perform chores well, they should be humiliated. Dommes in the class talked about punishment like setting them in a spreader bar wearing high heels or using impact play.
Maid Sissy
This sissy has multiple sub-categories including French maid, which is a highly sexualized form of sissy typically prone to half-assed work. Training includes physical incentives such as “better” clothing and daintier cleaning implements. Strict control of this sissy’s quality of work is required as they can sometimes steal. Nip this in the bud by offering clothing as a reward. As the sissy’s work improves, helping Mistress dress can be a reward. Once this sissy type achieves the performance level the domme requires, the sissy rises to a senior position, helping train new maids.
Helpless Sissy
This sissy type is a “damsel in distress in a slutty little dress”. They are HIGH MAINTENANCE. They require patience, lots of patience. They tend to equate vulnerability with femininity. They want to be saved, and oftentimes, the domme is their savior. This type of sissy responds well to punishment, bondage and chastity.
Sissy Slut
Anything goes for this sissy. They are insatiable. Training tools are sissy hypno, biggest dildo training in both orifices. This sissy wants to be the biggest slut on the block. The domme should let this sissy take the lead and encourage them to express what will make them feel sluttier, thereby making them easier to train. Like, watching themselves be a slut or serving a glory hole. They should shave their bodies, wear heels, and do makeup every day.
The class ended with a discussion of sissies in general. Sissies can have a hard time expressing their needs (except the slut). Sissies are typically neurodivergent people and should journal after scenes so the domme can ascertain their mindset.
Thanks to SEP for sharing his sissy education with us. Sounds like a great class!
Preview of Things to Come
Interviews
Liz River
Porsche Lynn
Kendra James
Mistress Cyan
Vendors
The Kink Shop
Leather by Danny
The Irish Scott
Classes
Dynamics of a BDSM Scene ~ Mistress Cyan
Turning Your Passion Into Profit ~ Kendra James
“Touch Kink” ~ Movie
Other classes that MP and SEP attended
Crossdressing Competition
Play Party
It was a whirlwind of a convention with all positives. My mind is still kinda in that head space, and I’m pretty sure I’ve smiled through the entire writing of this blog post.
A reminder to my DomCon customers… you should have received an email with a coupon code for the books you purchased. If you haven’t, please let me know. Be sure to use your coupon before the end of the month.
Extend my happy DomCon head space by telling me what you thought of this post. I’ll include your comments in the next DomCon review post… coming soon!
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Happy reading,
~B.J.
